Hello suzydd,   I feel for you and what your friend is experiencing.   I, too, have a friend who abused alcohol, however, he quit his addiction and attended Double Trouble in Recovery meetings.  DTR is for MICA clients--people who have menetal illnesses and chemical abuse backgrounds at the same time.   My friend got better because he stayed in treatment and was motivated to stop drinking.  So I offer this tale to tell you that if your friend gets help, and ONLY IF HE GETS HELP, will he have a better life.   Your friend needs to get help, and the sooner the better.  Offer to wait for him in the wiating room while he sees a professional.   At this point, your friend has to WANT to stop drinking.  He may be self-medicating.   If voices are telling him to do things, "command voices" as they're called, he needs to be checked into a hospital right away.  Medications exist which can give him a full, productive life.   His verbal abuse, his aggressive verbal manner also shows he is a danger to other people, and the criteria for admitting someone to a psych ward is the person has to be a danger to himself or others.  Your friend fits this bill.   Above all, you do not deserve to be treated abusively, even if he's acting this way because of his paranoia.   If he quits the alcohol, he has a good chance of recovering, but he won't ever recover unless he quits.   Lastly, because suicide is a factor [he's a danger to himself] he should be checked into the hospital, and that could mean the police come to take him away involuntarily if he won't go on his own.  I would call the local psych hospital ER, explain the situation [that your friend is a danger to himself and others, and is suicidal] and ask them what they think is the best way to get him admitted quickly.   I wish and your friend the best.   Peace, Christina