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I am 50 and have been living with my 81 yr old mother for several years following a diagnosis in 1995.  Several times (4?) I have tried to live on my own and only lasted 6 months.  But each time, I have learned a lot.  In fact, I talked to my mother just a couple of hours ago about how I feel that it is once again time to be on my own.  I have been scouting out apartments online.  She does NOT want to live alone.  My father died 4 yrs ago and today was the anniversary of my sister's death 5 yrs ago so maybe my timing was not right, but the opportunity came up and I took advantage of it.  I assured her that I want to take care of her and will spend one day a week with her after I move.  She tried to talk me out of it, but did not succeed.   Like Christina said, encourage your daughter to do her share of the housework, the laundry, grocery shopping, etc., so she will gain or regain her skills in these areas.  So she will feel competent enough to be on her own.  If you think she is well enough to try a place that offers some assistance (i.e., with med compliance) go and look with her.  I was not able to find an acceptable assisted living place for sz residents, but I did find a subsidized rent place near where my mother lived.  A 2-bedroom apt for $450/month which was great.  The part of town was not the best, but I was careful to be safe and never had any problems.   Praise what independence your daughter DOES show.  Even the tentative steps.  Yes, it is possible for her to get wekk enough to live on her own.  Taking the medication is a big part of that, too.  Talk to her openly if you think it is time for her to try independent living.   Carolyn