My husband is schizophrenic and we currently are still separated. However, we were just beginning to move towards each other again and several things happened that I am trying to sort through. While my husband has been on his meds for about 2 months and it does appear to be helping, I am trying to sort through what he may always struggle with or if the problems between us have nothing to do with his condition.
In our relationship, problems always arise when we as husband and wife decide on a situation. However, for whatever reason my husband easily gets influenced by the feelings, thoughts and opinions of others and will then go long with what some other person is feeling, thinking or believing.????
He follows their feelings even when their sugguestion is not the reasonable solution to the problems or situation in his life???
Example: My husband called me today when he ran out of gas on the way to work. In the phone conversation he stated that he was in short walking distance from his job however, he was taking friend somewhere --who was also with him. My first response knowing that he had to be to work at 2pm and it was 1:50pm --was that I would come to fill up the car with gas while he went on the work. This meant he could walk this short distance and make it in to work and I would assist take care of the car and gas. Additionally, I was willing to take his friend where they needed to go once I arrived or I suggested that the friend might be able to catch public transportation given the situations and the time it would take for me to get to them. Well, before we hung up, it was ok with my husband --however, he still ended up calling his mother to do what we had already resolved. On my way to help him, he calls me back to say never mind.
This situations happens a lot. He will ask for my help or assistance in problem solving and we will agreed on a solution. However, others around him may have their own opinions and even though they don't know the situation and agreement with me and him -- he allows them to make him feel bad and that he should really go along with what they feel.
What do you think? Is it me? or could this very well be a pattern and a way by which my husband gets confused? Because this is hurtful to me as it happens over and over again.
I wonder why he always ask for my help and what I think if it does not matter?