My husband has paranoid schizophrenia since 1998,he's on meds but for the past 4 or 5 yrs he's been drinking alot like either a 12 pack of beer or 30 beers in one night..Now I feel I'm dealing with more than I can deal with. cause I ask him do you think you have a problem with drinking?? and of course he would say no..Even if I say to him the reason your feeling not good is because of the beer..but he doesn't believe me..I really don't know what to do anymore but its putting alot of stress on me. I also have a son who is 15 yrs old I have to think of him.. Its like I put my life on hold for him for him to get better..If I say what's on my mind he goes into a panic. I have to take care of the business he started, keep house and do just about everything..I'm getting burnt out.What should I do???
Q: I really don't know if I'm coming or going..What to do??
Hi,
First let me say how sorry I am to read about your situation.
It seems to me that you need help and advice from an external source. I think it's important to be realistic however. The fact that your husband is drinking heavily may not in itself lead to any particular outcome. It is clearly making life difficult for you and I suspect your own health is at risk, but if your husband does not appear to be a danger to you or your son, to others or to himself, the options may be limited. You also need to ask yourself what it is you are looking for out of this. I'm sure you'd like him to stop drinking but is this realistic? Is there anything else you are looking for? What is it? Questions like this may well be asked.
I don't want to put a wet blanket over the situation before you've actually done anything but I think it's wise to consider these issues. The fact that your husband has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia leads me to think you may have some contact with mental health services of some kind? If this is the case it might be wise to contact them. They will know his background and they may have some specific advice. Otherwise you could perhaps turn to social services, your family doctor or anyone else you feel might be able to talk to in greater detail than you are able on this message board. I'm thinking perhaps of citizens advice or perhaps your local church.
A visit to your doctor might not be such a bad idea. I'm really thinking about your own health when I say this and it may lead to some other contacts or advice.
Hello bufferlady,
As Jerry said, you need to talk to a professional at a mental health center or your family doctor. You need to be strong and healthy for yourself so that you can be there for your son.
You might want to Google Al-Anon, which is a foundation like AA only it's for the family members of loved ones with alcoholism, as an additional option to seeing the doctor or mental health professional.
By all means, go right away to see a professional.
Regards,
Christina
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