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Saturday, September 12, 2009 lori1979 asks

Q: What should I do about my schizophrenic ex boyfriend?

Hello,

I have an ex boyfriend who was schizophrenic, but I am not sure if he has ever been diagnosed. We had a tumultuous relationship, and when he started becoming violent and hearing voices I left him. He apparently believes that the world is going to end, and that him and I are god and we will fight to stop the world from ending. I am in a relationship with an old friend of his and he has said terrible lies about this person. He even called up my parents and told them that we (me and my current boyfriend) were in a car accident, and that my boyfriend was dead, and I was in critical condition. He and I have been broken up for at least 7 years by the way. I moved away from him, and he found my address and sent me this crazy letter, saying I was the "one" and the time to fight for the world is near, and that I told him my boyfriend did horrible things to me in another dimension. Then he sent a letter to my parents telling them that my boyfriend did horrible things to him. That was a year or so ago, and I didn't respond, hoping he would leave us alone. I am terrrified that one day he is going to come after me, and hurt me. Then I looked on myspace, and he had found me and sent me a really crazy message. I don't know what to do, he is obviously fixated on me and I am scared. I am afraid that a restraining order will just enrage him further. What should I do???

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9/13/09 9:47am

Hello lori1979,

 

A restraining order is for your protection so at this point you may want to get one.  He is a danger to himself or others, and that is the criteria for admitting a person to a psych ward.  At this point, he needs to be involuntarily committed because, yes, he is a danger to you and others.  In all likelihood he may have a symptom where he does not believe he is sick, it's called anosognosia, so it will be harder for him to stay in treatment.

 

So yes, I would not hesitate to get a restraining order.  This is for your safety.  At this point, if I were you, I wouldn't care about whether something you did caused him to be inflamed.  You have no control over his actions.  Without the restraining order, you run the risk of him injuring you.

 

So the question is: would you rather enrage him or would you rather be dead?

 

Regards,

Christina

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9/12/09 4:09pm

Can you take out a "restraining order" against him with the police?  Sounds like he is stalking you.  I think you are smart not to respond to him.  Be careful.

 

Carolyn

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