About 2nd Marriage
Hi! I am 36 years old and my wife is a patient of paranoid schizophrenia. She is now in under treatment and taking medicine for the same. But 2 years ago when she was out of all control, another lady of my age came to my life and gradually a relation built between us. Now in current situation can I marry that lady? After taking the medicine my wife who is a patient of paranoid schizophrenia became like a child. We never think to leave her alone or go for any divorce, but still I want to marry that 2nd lady. Is it possible? Please help me.
Hello Bhaskar,
It pains you to see your wife the way she is right now. I understand that.
Legally you cannot marry another woman when you are still married to the first woman. You would have to divorce the first woman. In the United States when people take their wedding vows, they pledge to stick with each other "in sickness and in health."
I'm sure I can speak for other community members here, who are diagnosed with schizophrenia, when I say we would not appreciate what you are suggesting you want to do. Your wife needs your support and love. Recovery is not a quick process and it is not an easy process either.
Besides, what would happen if your second wife developed some kind of problem?
Sites like SchizophreniaConnection exist so that people diagnosed with schizophrenia and their family members and friends and romantic partners can get support in a welcoming, encouraging atmosphere.
It is possible your wife can find relief from her symptoms. It is possible that with time she can recover to the best of her ability.
I will let other community members at this website chime in right now because I'm afraid if I continue this response, I am going to come on quite strong and say something I will regret.
The short, legal answer is that you can't marry a second woman while you're still married to the first woman. You can divorce her.
The compassionate answer is entirely different.
Regards,
Christina
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Bhaskar
Wednesday, October 07, 2009 at 01:14 AM
Hi Christina!
Thanks for your kind reply and friendly suggestion. I never thought to leave my first wife as she is like a child now and need more care. The 2nd woman also know this and she also support my activities towards my wife. But from the very first day of our marriage life my wife is mentally ill and we do not have any relation like husband-wife. Still I never think to leave her alone in the mid-way of life when she is a mantal patient. Nobody is with her now (neither he relatives nor my relatives), I know it's my own battle and I have to fight it.
Thanks again my friend.
Regards / Bhaskar
I'm afraid it sounds as if he is from a Muslim country where women are considered second class citizens, at best, and are often denied basic human rights.
How very sad.