Hello endorope,
Yes, I hope you feel we helped you.
Even someone who is doing well has no right to ask for reasonable accommodations until after the job offer is made. I see why your son isn't getting any jobs.
I do not know if others responded to your first question after I left a comment.
I see the situation is even deeper than you let on the first time.
I wish you the courage and strength to do whatever you feel you have to do.
We're with you on this.
Regards,
Chri