Dear worried mom,
I am a voice survivor. I started hearing voices at the age of 17, I am now 47. I heard voices for 29 years, despite the meds, and ECT's. The meds and ECT's helped control my paranoia, depression and anxiety.
I was resigned to the fact that I will always hear voices my whole life. I hadn't listened to them in years even though they were relentless. What I mean is that I knew they were talking but gave them no attention to what they said or wanted me to do. Its like a carnival, there's all kinds of sounds but not one would stand out.
The voices told me many things...all lies. Last year, 2009, I had enough. I sat on my hands for many years doing nothing to stop the voices. I read blogs where people had stopped hearing voices. I wanted that for myself. I began a war..me against the voices. One thing that I did was whenever a voice started to speak I would abruptly stop them from speaking and then push them out of my mind. It was like and addiction recovery. I stopped smoking and when the urge came to smoke I used distractions to take my mind off off the urges. It was hard to control those urges. I used those same actions to counter the voices.
It was very hard to stop the voices. I was determined to be done with them. It took week and months to gain any progress. When I first heard voices I heard them from sun up to sundown. Now 30 years later I hear them rarely.
I know its possible to stop the voices. Donj't give up looking for a med to help. Early on in my illness there wasn't many meds out there. Now there are several. I take 5 meds daily. This "cocktail" of meds is keeping me on a good path of recovery.
I want you and your son to know that despite the voices there can be a good life. I worked for many years. I own my home and two cars which are all paid off. Given the physical things that I have, they don't outmatch the effort that I have achieved to overcome the voices.
Your support of your son is crucial to his recovery. Let him know that yes he can recover. I know this because I did. My motto "NEVER, EVER GIVE UP!"
Let me conclude by saying that meds are essential in your son's life. Don't let my statement about the meds not curing the voices for me deter your son's treatment. Everyone is different and meds act on them differently. Meds are part of my life and my recovery process, I could not have come this far without them.
I wish you and son the best. You can always send me an email here.
There is hope.