It’s the holidays and you and your significant other have decided it is time for you to “meet the family.” You want to make a good impression, you want them to like you but you are worried. What if they don’t like you? What if you don’t like them?
The following are some tips to keep in mind when meeting the family for the first time:
Ask for some background information. At this point, you may have already shared stories of family life, but you might want to know more. Ask about family dynamics. Are there some people that don’t get along with one another? Are there certain topics you should avoid? Are there some interesting facts or hobbies you can use to strike up conversations?
Dress the part. Every family is different. Some are casual, no matter what the occasion. Others believe a family dinner calls for a more dressed up look. You don’t want to show up in jeans if everyone else will be dressed up. You also don’t want to overdress if they are all in jeans and a t-shirt. Either way is going to make you feel self-conscious and out of place. Ask what you should wear but no matter what the answer, you should look clean and well-groomed.
Be on time. If you are expected at a certain time, be sure to show up on time. If you are delayed, call ahead, apologize and let them know what time to expect you. Being on time shows respect.
Compliment but be genuine. If you find the house lovely, let your significant other’s family know. If you don’t find it to be your taste, find something to offer a compliment, such as the fresh flowers, the vase on the table or the food itself. Overdone or forced compliments are usually evident. Instead, find something you can genuinely appreciate.
Published On: December 23, 2013