Beware Of Your Expectations

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Tuesday, October 14, 2008
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A lot of times when a woman meets a new man and she feels like everything just "clicks," she will immediately start to have all sorts of expectations about him. These are not things she expects him to do, however, but rather things she starts to expect that he is (or might be). S...

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 at 01:32 AM

Do you think that there are times though that a person really can tell after the first couple dates if maybe he is the one? I've heard this scenario from many of my married friends that she knew on the first date that he was different and would be the one, I've had a similar situation happen in which I met a guy through my best friend and her fiance' and we hit it off the first time we met, but he was seeing someone, but the next day after we met we both unknowing at the time described a magnetic attraction to the person physically and to their personality. Six months later when he was single for a couple months, we saw each other again and hit it off and started talking everyday, I'm not gonna lie, i do have expectations, and I honestly think he might be however I don't feel like i hold this against him or anything, i'm a pretty relaxed person though. Isn't it required to have some sort of expectations in a relationship if you expect it to go anywhere? and aren't there somtimes when the early ecpectations and thinking He's the one turn out to be true?

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David Wygant
Thursday, November 06, 2008 at 07:01 PM

Do I think there are times that when a person can tell after the first couple of dates maybe if somebody's the one?

Absolutely,

I think you can tell immediately if you have something unique with that person that you're with because you get a very peaceful feeling when you hang out with them.

Not only that, when you meet someone that you actually feel like you're connecting with greater than anybody else, there's an effortless feeling to it.

It's not like you have to think about when you're going to see each other next.

It's a matter of when you see each other next.

There's also that feeling of when the date ends, there's a peaceful feeling.

Instead of wondering what the person is thinking, there's this intuition knowing that the person is thinking and feeling the same exact way that you are.

It's really interesting. Things like this happen once in a while.

It's called complete and utter chemistry.

A lot of the time, is that people tend to have different expectations and relationships don't go anywhere

The fact is is that your expectations sometimes are just so high, and you sometimes try to force a relationship to happen when a relationship really isn't going to happen.

Beware of the expectations because you'll put these expectations on other people.

If you put these expectations on other people, they may not be able to live up to those expectations.

I've found that every relationship that I've ever been in my entire adult life has been pretty much effortless from the beginning.

I didn't have to think about things. I didn't have to worry about things.

I just knew the person was thinking about me and they were on the same page as me.

If you really want to find the one, or one that you connect with, you've got to do a lot of work on yourself, and you've got to become peaceful within yourself first.

I hope this helps you.

If not, send me another question, I'll gladly answer for you.