When Is The Last Time You Had A Crush On Somebody?

Hey, sorry to hear about all your previous experiences being bad.....

But how do you know when someone is wanting more? and what are the boundaries?

The answer is simple.

A good relationship starts off with both partners being on the same page,

and with both partners being on the same page, good communication follows naturally!

Which is the back bone of any serious relationship.....

so how do you know when your partner is wanting more?

you feel it! you feel what your partner desires out of the relationship.

and you ask them!

you ask your partner what they want.

you communicate with your partner, and you talk about what you both want out of the
relationship.

and that's how you maintain a good, healthy relationship.

How do you know where the boundaries stand?

Again, you can sense it in your partner.

But the MOST important part of this problem is,

you draw your own boundary.....

because in the end it is still your life that you're living.

if your partner can't accept your boundary, that means they are not on the same page
with you!

there is absolutely no need to stay in a relationship with someone that's not on the
same page with you!

and life is about searching for a partner who's 100 % on the same page with you!

hope these explanations helps, talk soon.

David Wygant

hmmm, there was one that was bad - in which in hindsight i learned nothing but the art of self-castigation - but thanks for the empathy re. all of them LOL. most of the rest were all some kind of reasonably pleasant relationship kindergarten. your boundary comment funny tho -  marriage counsellor had me read a recommendable tome on boundaries (whitford?).  8 years ago - following the aforementioned bad experience and feeling a little irked - i tried a boundary experiment.  in honour of all the confused men who became serious well in advance of me, i developed 'the ten'. in that scenario anyone who wanted to spend time with me socially was told on the first date (such a stupid word) that i would muck about with at least 10 men before even considering getting serious. as harsh as it sounds, and i got a lot of stick so poss it was, they all got it and some of them actually seemed to like the clarity. the rest pissed off immed! chastity element helpful - poss made it seem less a game - and no std's. a huge success, all going swimmingly, having lots of fun and at the end of 10 my ex came into town on a soul-search and i took it as a sign. apparently a sign i needed to experience 8 interesting years of personal growth followed by the big d. all those mars / venus type books used to seem superfluous and now i think they are useful but my little trial taught me that sometimes words are not enough. sometimes people need to establish active, physical boundaries. like not signing marriage docs. or maybe its all crap and some women attract too many men with adhd...

am way out of my depth. and out of time. incid, were you like this before or after you were whacked on the head with your surfboard?

the intensity of orig issue is subsiding now that it is public so thank you for the opp.

ps. potential thesis - biz boundaries are much easier than personal - maybe entreprenurial leanings a search for clarity?