Alright... well, here's the deal. I have finally gotten my first constant boyfriend. He tries so hard to please me. I'm 16.. he is aswell.. but 6 months younger than me. He tries so hard to please me, but I dont know why, he just doesn't get me to orgasm. No guy ever did before. So i feel like i have to fake it just so he wont feel like a failier... becacuse I know with any other girl, he'd make them scream.
I know what you're thinking, you're too young to have an orgasm-- and yeah that was the excuse I used for myself at first. But then i realized i was even more helpless than i thought.
NOW HERE'S THE BIG STORY
Ever since i was, hmm.. 6 or 7 years old, I discovered that whenever i touched my private area lightly through the fabric of my underwear, it felt really good. I'd tickle the area almost... starting slow and very lightly and then getting faster and harder until i hit an amazing feeling like... unbelieveable. I KNOW.. 7 YEARS OLD?? i didnt know what it was.. but i kept doing it, over and over.. like every single night.. didnt know didnt care it felt good i wanted to do it. Every time i felt like it when i was trying to fall asleep or something. Sometimes id do it to help me fall asleep because afterwards id be really sweaty and tired.
So i grew up a little more (still doing that same thing almost every night), and i heard of orgasms.. and im just like... wow they must be REALLYYY good.. i wonder how they feel in compared to my little ritual. So i started getting with guys, and each time.. nothing they'd do would even come close to making me feel the way i made myself feel. I love dick though, i know for a fact im not a lesbian, in case that thought ran through your mind aswell. I have thought about it and decided... no... But anyway, yeah... i still did the same action .. hmm its been aboutt what... 10 years now??
In short, i figured out that.. that feeling must be an orgasm... and i must have conditioned myself to only have an orgasm with that same action ... -- lightly flicking my clitoris hood.. with a layer of clothing (usually underwear) between ... and tensening my lower abdomen until i highten to a climax.. and a short orgasm.... that i can repete several times within the hour until im tired.
Now I'm just sad because I guess no man will ever be able to give me an orgasm, and i cant even give myself one any other way, besides the way i have been doing it since i was in grade 1.
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P.S. doubt you heard of that situation before..
stimulate yourself or have him do it. i have the same problem. i'm not sure why but it just doesn't happen from regular intercourse. either i don't have a g spot or he can't hit it. just try stimulating yourself while he thrusts.
yeahh but i can't any other way than the only way i have been since i was young.. like nothing else seems to stimulate me.... will i ever be able to reverse that effect?
i dunno. maybe you could use a vibrator? you're probably going to have to stimulate yourself. because no matter how much i get into sex i still don't come without clitoral stimulation. maybe yours is small as well?
I had great feelings and orgasms from masturbation from about the same age as you, about 6 or 7, and enjoyed the thrusting from men when I had sex later, and oral sex was pretty good, but they couldn't bring me to orgasm like I could myself. I met a man in my early 30s though who I was very compatible with, with whom I was very comfortable and who accepted me in every way -- my body (that I felt was so imperfect -- he was SO into it and made me forget myself by being so into it), and we had so much fun together. A few months into the relationship I was having mind-blowing orgasms with him. I learned my body with him in a way that I never knew it because I learned to relax. After that relationship ended, I carried that knowledge with me and could still have the same mind-blowing orgasms. Sex therapists will tell you it's not the guy, that you can get to know your body with any guy, but I don't think that's true. You sound very sensual. Keep looking for someone who is compatibly sensual. The guy you're with sounds giving, but maybe he's not your cup of tea in some way, or the right personality, or something is just not right and you can't quite relax enough. That's what happened with me, and maybe that's what's going on with you.