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Plan B: The Morning After Pill

Amy Hendel
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You may have had a momentary lapse of good judgment, and suddenly find yourself the next morning, concerned that, "you could be pregnant."  Or maybe the condom tore or shifted, or maybe the diaphragm was old and had a tiny hole.....or you might have had an unwanted sexual encounter.  Whatev...
  1. The Word Rape
    Keri
    Tuesday, March 10, 2009 at 04:38 PM

    Your blog gives excellent information overall, however it's important to use the word "rape" instead of the euphemism "unwanted sexual encounter" in the context of the morning after pill.  An "unwanted sexual encounter" can consisted of a myriad of sexual acts that are unwanted, but don't result in pregnancy.

     

    Coming from someone who has worked with victims of sexual violence for many years, it's very important to give rape its proper name when providing reproductive health, and sex education information.  If a woman who has been raped cannot use that word for herself, that's her choice.  But educators must not deemphasize it by using softer language.  It's the same as saying someone "passed away" instead of "died."  In some cases, it may be appropriate to soften the language to spare emotions, but sexual health educators in the U.S., calling rape an "unwanted sexual encounter" ranges from confusing to minimizing.  Your reader might be a 13 year old with little or a lot of sexual experience, and correspondingly a little or a lot of sexual knowledge, or a 50 year old women with the same.

     

    Women need to know about the morning after pill, so that if they are ever raped, they know it's available. They also need to feel comfortable with the correct term for what happened to them.  For most, it's going to be hard enough to say after it happens.  For all of its strides, law enforcement can still be difficult to deal with in the same ways that intimidated women from reporting rape 25 to 30 years ago before things started to change

     

    In addition to the information in your article, women need to know that some doctors and pharmacists will refuse to give them the morning after pill based on religous or other reasons that they may not disclose, but this doesn't mean that she can't go somewhere else -- the next corner pharmacy, etc.  It's a hideous situation to be in when she is already in the aftermath of rape.  If she lives in a very small, rural town with one pharmacist, this is a very bad situation for her, but the debate isn't over yet as to whether the doctor's and/or pharmacist's ideologies trump her reproductive rights.  Also, many Catholic hospitals will not administer it in their emergency rooms because they consider it contraception.  If she wants it, and has control, i.e. is going to the E.R. under her own power or can redirect the ambulance, right now it's best to avoid Catholic hospitals.  The Catholic faith's ban on contraceptives has made them eratic -- mostly not willing -- as to whether or not they will give the morning after pill. 

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    re: The Word Rape
    Amy Hendel
    Tuesday, March 10, 2009 at 07:49 PM

    Keri-

    Those are excellent points and additions to my blog entry.  I hesitated using the word "rape" only because I had encountered women over the years who refused to actually use the word - they seemed to find it more personally acceptable to have a phrase similar to the one I usedm describe the event - but I defer to your position as well.

     

    Excellent point about the ability to get the morning after pill "with ease" - I had covered this problem in an earlier blog discussing new legislations in states - so because of my "word constraint" - we try to keep the blogs at 500 words - I hoped readers would use the search words and find the additional information.  I'm delighted that you weighed in to remind us of the unfortunate fact that this particular "woman's right" - might not be easily obtained for a variety of reasons.

     

    Thank you for weighing in.

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    re: re: The Word Rape
    keri
    Wednesday, March 11, 2009 at 04:42 AM

    I forgot to mention that in New Jersey, it's now the law that pharmacists fill contraceptive prescriptions, including the morning after pill, regardless of their moral / other ideologies.

     

    Progress!

     

    I do understand about victims' hesitancy to use the word "rape."  I am a victim of date rape, and a borderline sexual assualt by a gyn doctor, (fortunately borderline in a way because it wasn't worse, and unfortunately in a way because he can't be prosecuted)  and calling each what they really are is like a stabbing knife.  However, for me, it's part of the road to healing, because still, after a lot of time, that disbelief fog does come over me.  It's important, in whatever way she chooses, for women to come to terms with their reality and pass out of those disbelief phases (flashbacks).  The words can be harsh, but that characteristic can serve a purpose.  Her choice, taking her time.

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    re: re: re: The Word Rape
    Amy Hendel
    Wednesday, March 11, 2009 at 07:46 AM

    I am so sorry to hear that your wealth of information came from a personal experience.  It takes enormous courage and inner strength to take such a horrible experience and turn it into leadership and the willingness to educate others - again, thank you for all the information (agreed about the "progress) - best of luck and continue to "read and weigh in."

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