I'm 21 year old virgin who has never been able to use a tampon. It hurts, down there, a lot.
I went to see an OBGYN nurse a couple of months ago who put me on the pill in order to help regulate my erratic cycle. At the appointment I was going to have a pap smear, but the speculum hurt me something awful, it felt like I was being torn in two, like I was being impaled. My OBGYN nurse took pity on me, probably because my screams (no joke, I left that office dripping in sweat, exhausted with a tear stained face) scared her other patients away. She managed to get the entire speculum in (after switching to her smallest, for my comfort) but gave up on the test until next time, when I would have had time to stretch my vaginal walls with the sack of tampons and lube, though she said she had no trouble getting it in. We had gone through probably eight attempts. Even the finger test was too painful.
Now that I'm home from school I was going to start the stretching (which couldn't be done in the "privacy" of a dorm bathroom). So I thought I'd start small with a Q-tip, just to get used to feeling something down in there. But the second the cotton hit the vaginal opening, stinging pain. I stopped instantly but it hurt for a solid five minutes.
I'm really concerned that there is something wrong with me. I'm convinced it is not an infection because it's only pain not any other form of irritation. I'm afraid that I'll never be able to have sex. Or there is something far more serious. Is there something that my OBGYN isn't telling me, or might not have been aware of? I know this isn't just in my head, and I have a solid reference of pain (in case you might think that I'm over reacting) as I have dislocated my hip in the past. Can anyone help?