As the statement says, she and I are not sexually active. Neither of us are with anyone. Both virgins. While trying to climax, she'll come close to an orgasm, her muscles will begin to cramp up and then the feeling will vanish as the cramps subside. Is there anything she can do to experience that feeling? Is there a possible medical condition that she/we may need to be concerned about? Thanks a bunch!
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Q: I recently found out that my girlfriend has never had an orgasm. We are NOT sexually active in any way. As described to me, close to climax, pain and cramps, then the feeling vanishes.
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12/ 7/10 3:45pm
Talking to with her gynecologist about this is the first place she should go. The reason is that there may be a physical problem, like with the thyroid, and the doctor can eliminate that and perhaps guide her to further help, if needed.
It's a common complaint in their practice, and she shouldn't be embarrassed since the doctor is there to help with her health and has dealt with this before.
Not sure if you are an active participant in her activity, or this is what she relates to you. Sometimes trying too hard can cause cramps. She must be able to relax and not be rushed. Without knowing, it's hard to say what her particular story is, so, a doctor is the best place to start. That will eliminate the problem being physical.
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I can relate to your girlfriend. A check with a gyno could not hurt. Death by embarassement maybe. After being in a sexually abusive relationship I have similar issues. I didn't have sex but everything else possible happened. Not having sex does not mean abuse could not have occured. That is a way of putting up a unconcious sexual barrier to avoid further emotional damage. But since I don't know all the info I want assume that. This happens to me from time to time. I've been married to the same man for 17 years. Often it's a matter of timing. Does it take to long? Muscles get tired after awhile. Sometimes the feeling is so close then it dissapears this often causes discomfort. Comfort level is another biggie. Maybe it is an orgasam and it is painful because she is rushed or stressed. It is a stressful thing to participate in. Because if it does not happen for us girls then it often makes the guy feel bad. Does this happen to her durring solo sex. If she masterbates and all works well then you can rule out a physical problem and concentrate more on the emotional side of things. I hope this was helpful to you. Best of luck.