I'm asking this question today because my husband seems to be fairly one-sided during sex. He doesn't bother tending to my intimacy needs. When I try to bring up the topic, he's always saying "I'll figure it out on my own!" But he doesn't want me to tell him what feels good, like some director.
I'm at the end of my rope here because today is our 3rd Anniversary and instead of trying other methods of turning me on, he decided it was just easier to go on the computer and masturbate than try to help me out.
I do admit that my libido is really low, but I don't think it's necessarily because I don't want sex, but the only time I get it is when I'm not asking foreplay of my husband. Which makes for a bad time for me. Also, there's a lot of stress in my life, and he's frequently depressed and is currently medicated.
How can I help my sexlife? Is there anything I can do to get him to pay more attention to my needs?