Hi.  I urge you to talk to your heart doctor.  What bothers me is that you said the problem is increasing.  It could be that you are a bit nervous about the intensity of good sex after having heart problems.  In the back of your mind, without realizing it, you may be "holding back".  Or, perhaps your lover is holding back on giving you screaming, hip shaking orgasms because he views you a frail.  If he is, tell him you want intense sex and would rather die in orgasm than live to be 100 and be frustrated sexually.  Assuming that is not a problem, some medications make orgasm harder to reach.  Not impossible, just harder.  Ask your doctor or pharmist about side effects of medications, or combinatoin of medications.  Many lovers have pacemakers and no troubles with lovemaking, particularly at such a young age as yours.  Tell your lover about your orgasm problems.  Its not an embarassment; and its not necessarily anyone's "fault".  He may also be frustrated at not making you cum like he used to.  He needs to know and will probably want to know, so that he can do some things differently.  Tell him want turns you on, and ask him to do it longer.  Or try something new - a vibrator, or different touch.  My wife had trouble climaxing due to some medication.  I was not initially aware of the side effect, and thought I was doing something wrong, even though it used to work in the past.  She finally confided to me that she really wanted to cum and had a hard time getting there.  Once aware of the side effect, I realized that I had more opportunity for foreplay with hands (and mouth) before entering her.  Our lovemaking actually lengthened and when she started her orgasms, they just kept coming faster and faster, one after another.  It still frustrated her when she was particularly aroused, and wanted me to give her an orgasm now.  You may feel that frustration too.   I also found that more physical sex turned her on.  Unfortunately, it also turned me on so much that I finished too soon.  So we made a conscious decision to do it again in a little while, when I could pound her forcefully.  That brought her around, and the intensity also brought me around again too.  So you may get a two for one result!  I think if you open up, in more ways than one, to your lover, you will find a new level of intimacy with your lover.  Good luck. 

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9/ 2/09 7:27am

Dear MOguy thank you for your input. Most of the things you mentioned we have tried to but we don't know what else we can do. I was thinkinone degree or another. My husband is aware of the problem,

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9/ 2/09 7:52am

dear Moguy, sorry 'bout that last reply, my computer "glitched" in the middle of it. But yes my dear husband knows about the problem, and bless his heart has tried EVERYTHING to help mer "get there", so I'm thinking that maybe in a medical sense my body is just wearing out from this heart problem, I'm embaressed to ask my Dr. but I guess I'm going to have to ,  btw I'm MOgirl myself. Again thank you for your input, I appreciate it. Sioux. 

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9/ 9/09 5:40pm

Dear Mogirl.  Been thinking about your concerns the past week.  I thought congestive heart failure is essentially fluid around the heart that slows it down, to the point of stopping it if left untreated.  I could be wrong about this.  I can see it being a problem when the condition is active, but not as much when there is no fluid build up.  On the other hand, if your heart is damaged, and just doesn't work at enough capacity, I could see how that chronic condition could affect lovemaking.  But if that is the case, then I'd think you would feel overly tired, and probably not interested in sex to start with.  You sound quite eager, so I don't see the "tired" or worn out heart application here.

 

I think its OK to ask your doctor, and you should not be embarassed!  Your doctor isn't going to tell anyone.  You have every right to orgasm if its possible.  Drug side effects or a chronic condition should be ruled out. 

 

Please don't give up. 

 

MoGuy