My husband has been disabled for about 5 years now. We have been married for 10 years. Needless to say, I am the only one now that can keep up with the housework, yard work (2 acres), taking care of him, my daughters needs, the meals and my full time job as a wedding and events specialist. And there hasn't been any sexual contact since either. 5 years is a long time to not feel like a woman. I am starting to resent my husband, not on purpose of course, but I have feelings of anger. How can I stop these feelings? I love my family, job, and home, but sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed. Is this all I am worth now? Are these feeling normal? They seem to be getting a little worse as time goes by.
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Q: I am a 41 year old wife of a disabled man, and a mother of a wonderful 9 year old daughter.
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11/15/08 11:39pm
i understand what you are saying. that is a hard job. its ok too feel like that. your family is really thankful for you. if you feel like you need to please yourself n a sexual way, go out and buy yourself a sex toy. theres nothing wrong with making yourself feel good. also depending on how disabled ur husband maybe he can help a little when it comes to the toy. good luck
11/16/08 9:43am
I agree with mz. If you are too embarassed to go to a store, go to drugstore.com. They have a wide variety of toys and be sure to read the reviews. Please remember that your husband is still a sexual being too. He probably feels like he's less of a man because he can't do the things he used to do to please you sexually as well as do the things a husband does around the house and yard. Include him in the selection process of toys and let him satisfy you with them. I'm sure it will help you both immensely.
2/27/12 3:17am
I am a young woman who has ms. Still very much in good shape. still ballroom dance and everything. It goes in and out of remission. On one hand i understand how you feel I am in love with a 56 year old man who has nothing wrong with him and he doesnt ever make me feel like a woman and never takes me anywhere. Love will get you to hang in there no matter what but hormonal desires will make you resort to other options such as toys and sexual imaging of you and your husband or mate making love. It is easy to go and get satisfied always but after the deed is done it is harder to forgive yourself also look into the eyes of the man you love and know it is not his fault he cannot perform. Get a toy or a visual aid to make you feel like a woman. You can still wear sexy lingerie for him also you.
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