I am asking this question here because it has become a very sensitive topic between my wife and I, but I need some answers and WE need some help.

We used to have a very active sex life...We have a 3-yr old son (my wife's third child before having her tubes tied). I assumed at first that her loss of sexual appetite was typical while bouncing back from having a baby...but after three months I began to inquire with her if everything was okay. She replied as if she was surprised I had asked...as if she hadn't noticed we weren't having sex very often. After six months with a maximum of two sexual experiences per month...I was beginning to get a little concerned. I was beginnig to develop a complex. Have never had any problem between us before...never had any complaint from any other woman I have ever been with (not being funny here) and I am only 27 years old in perfect health...over the next two and a half years we have dwindled down to having sex MAYBE once a month or so, and it is VERY frustrating for me. She admits that she is aware of our long "droughts"...and apologizes...but says she rarely feels any sexual desire at all.

The next question I would expect one to ask would be: "How is your relationship otherwise?"

The answer is PERECT! We get along very well, we enjoy each other's company. We never argue. We work well together and support each other in parenting...Seriously, one would think we had a storybook marriage...

...can anyone give me any idea what has happened to my wife's sex drive? She is embarrased to ask her GYN...she doesn't think it's a physical issue...therefore none of his business...but I am afraid that if something doesn't change soon, we are going to develop some issues elsewhere in our relationship... :(