I had a miscarriage last year, and havent been pregnant since. (was Pregnant as of June 3) The doctors told me it was a miscarriage July 15 but didnt confirm it until Aug 22 because my HCG levels will still slowly going up. There was blood, but no grey matter. I also never had a DUI because they didnt know if I was still preg or not. My periods since then have been off. They were regular before. These are the dates: Aug 22, Sept 20, Oct 4, Nov 12, THEN Jan 1, Feb 4, Then April 15, Then June 4, July 12. Since January this year, I have been tracking my basal temp, and using the ovulation kits, and we have had sexual activity every 2 days. This month, We did 3 days in a row the day my temp went up and the ovulation stick read positive. That was on June 26, 2009. And I got my period yesterday. I'm so heartbroken. I just want to give up. My husband and I are both healthy. He has had a sperm count, and everything looks normal to the doctors. He's 25, I'm 24. We are both average weight, and have no family history of anything. I've had an appointment booked for over three months, but the soonest I can get in to see the gyn is still November 9th 2009. Please help... What am I doing wrong? It's important to us to have children at our age, rather than when we're older becuase we still want to be able to get down on the floor with our Grandchildren etc...
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Q: What's wrong with me? Over a year, Husband and I healthy, still NOT Pregnant. Soonest app. Nov 9 09
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I know...it is so heartbreaking when you are trying to conceive and you get your period once again. I can tell you that I have gone through this for more than a couple of years. I too had a miscarraige at first. I think you are taking the right steps...you have your appointment set up. Now is this with a regular gynecologist or a fertility specialist?
What is also good is that you have found that your husband's sperm are not the issue. So it is just a matter of figuring out this puzzle.
So have they checked to see if you are, indeed, ovulating each cycle? The next step for me after trying Chlomid (this was a drug to induce ovulation) for several cycles was to get a laparoscopy...which they sometimes call belly button sugery...it is exploratory surgery where they stick a scope through your naval to see what is going on down there. Sometimes the exploration is helpful in itself as your tubes get cleared.
For me...I had some edometriosis...some scarring down there which can affect fertility.
But who knows for you what the issues are. As difficult as it may be...try to be patient...keep trying. You will get this figured out.
And just to let you know...my story has a happy ending...after those years of infertility...I have now...two teen-age boys.
I hope this helps some. Hang in there.
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Give it a few years? I am not a doctor but it is my opinion that this is bad advice. If it is over a year now...no...you need help with this. I strongly say to find a specialist at this point. You need to figure out what the problem is. I was in my twenties when I had my miscarriage but my infertility lasted over two years! By the time I did get pregnant I was nearly thirty! So...this is important to correct anything that is wrong now. I don't think I would go on the pill....I would keep trying and wait to see a specialist.
I know how emotionally difficult this is...keep hopeful...there is so much which can be done these days.
Keep in touch here to let us know how things evolve...I have my fingers crossed for you.
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Thank you so much for your reply. The appointment that is booked is for the gynecologist. They were supposed to book me for the fertility clinic as well, but I still havent heard back from them yet. This mihgt be weird, but I almost thought of just trying to get pregnant from the pill... Like going on it for a few months to get "regular" and then trying to get pregnant right after I stop. The hardest point for me right now is that the first doctor said because I'm not in my 30's trying to get pregnant that I should give it a few years.. So moreless that I'm not as important as I would be because I'm younger. So I'm not sure that at my age anyone is taking it seriously, but what else am I supposed to do? There's a reason that I want to have children now, and that should be my choice of urgency, not theirs..?