I too was in a sexless marriage for 22 years.  I married him when I was only 23 years old and had no clue about this disorder.  My earliest clues something was wrong was when I would always initiate sex with him and he would never respond to my advances...oh physically he seemed good to go, but could never follow through.  I used to find porno magazines hidden in the closet, and I just figured I must be some ugly creature that repulsed my own husband, where he had to get off looking at the magazines.  I remember crying all the time in our marriage and basically my self-esteem went out the window.  I tried everything under the sun to get him interested in me.  We did manage to have a child together (a miracle in itself), and basically that is why I stayed in the marriage.   My husband used to wait for me to leave the house so he could get on the computer and look at porno.  I found out by checking out the history log on our computer.  I recalled that early one morning I was in the mood and he refused me, well I got dressed and ran some errands when I came home later that day, checked the history on the computer and relized he was on there as soon as my car was leaving the driveway that same morning he refused me.  Imagine the hurt and horror I felt?  I confronted him and he told me I was crazy, and somehow blamed me for everything.  On the other hand he would always tell me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am, etc. etc, his words never matched his actions.   I could go on and on about this horrid affliction, but I would advise any woman having to deal with this is get out of the relationship while you still have your self-esteem, because that will soon be stripped of you.  There are plenty of healthy men out there, don't waste your time and energy on this.   I have since met a wonderful man and married him.  There are no sexual issues between us and its nice to be "normal" for once.  My self-esteem has slowly returned and I now realize that my ex-husband was the one with all the issues, it was never about me at all.   on a side note, my ex has recently met a woman 15 years younger than him, and they are dating and according to what he told me they are intimate.  I guess she is the "whore" for right now.