i found this looking for the normal amount to have sex. i thought with three kids my wife would slow down but she hasnt, but only wanted more sex. i love sex, dont get me wrong, but im happy with three or four times a week. i work, have other things going. im very tired.
Despite the children my wife likes sex daily, more than once a day at times. she wakes me up for it knowing i have to go to work in the morning. She wants to have quickies during the day while the children are playing upstairs or even just in the other room. It is like she is dying for attention, ALWAYS. Right when i see her she climbs in my lap like she is one of the kids, or on my lap if you know what i mean in another way. Dont get me wrong, i love it that she is affectionate, but she is almost glued to me. i get a couple phone calls while im at work, text messages, and when i get home she is waiting by the door. Soon as we have five minutes alone she wants sex. please dont take this the wrong way im not totally upset over it. Ten years i have become somewhat used to it, but not totally used to it. There are times i just dont want cuddles, kisses, to lay with her or sex. But she always wants it.
im not sure what to do. She is a good mother, good wife in most ways. i just need some space. After the kids, work, and just life stresses i dont have this much left in me to give her in the way of sex or the attention she seems to require. She stays home with the children all day, and says she needs adult time because she is with kids all day. i understand that but the constant touching, loviness isnt always great. sometimes, i just need a break and to be left alone. i feel it zaps the energy i have left at the end of the day and i dont have enough to give the kids the time and energy they deserve.
She has also put flowers, balloons, etc in my cars, romantic type things. But now that im older i hate to say it, but ive kind of had enough. A simple i love you once a day and maybe some cuddle a couple times a week, sex a few times a week is enough for me. But my wife seems to want CONSTANT attention.
It is almost like she has no identity anymore except what she seems to find through me. i dont know what to do. i dont want to be mean about it. i ask her to sometimes just give me a little time to myself, but then she kind of sulks. We have been married and together for quite a few years now. i met her when we were younger and she was only eighteen and i was twenty three. i kind of thought she would have grown out of it but she never did and now its getting tiring. Especially since we have children, other responsibilitys now it isnt like when we were young and all we had to do was spend time together. we have other things going on now. But she is a good mother, very attentive. Almost, dare i say it, too attentive in all aspects. i love her, i dont want to sound mean, but i really need some time, and more space. i have no energy left physically or emotionally i feel like she is draining me.