what is the average times a married couple has sex per week?

If you are wanting sex 2 times a week with 2 kids and working full time your considered to have a high libedo.  Tell your hubby to grow up.....it's not all about him.

My husband wants to have sex at least 6 times a week. He thinks that I have a very low libedo and thinks I need therapy for only wanting to have sex 2 times a week. I have two kids 9 and 2. I own a business and spend a lot of time volunteering. On average I work 50 hours a week.

I find it odd that the male's desires for more frequent sex are often considered childish.  If the wife wanted sex more frequently than the husband, would she be admonished to "grow up"?  (This is not an uncommon situation, and yes, frequently the man is viewed as being in some way in the wrong when it occurs.)

While 6 (how do you arrive at that number?) may be a bit much, many couples are able to juggle time constraints with sex throughout the week.  Sex doesn't have to take a lot of time, and for most people it's enjoyable.  Being tired is one thing, but perhaps underlying your husband's unhappiness with the situation is a feeling that you are putting work - and particularly volunteering, something you don't have to do but have chosen to do instead of spend more time with him - before your relationship with him, and that he is something of an afterthought.  If he feels this is reflected in the times you do have sex, it will only reinforce this.  His focus on sex may be a surrogate issue for that.

Sounds to me like OKM has a very good point. Why does the guy always get the blame? Some of you women like to get on these chat places and throw all the blame at your man. Then all of the other women on here who are blaming their guy for something chime in and you all reassure yourselves that you are perfect. 50 hours a week plus volunteering and kids. Sounds to me like your husband is screaming for some of your attention. Maybe you should check into what he needs for a change. All most of you women can do is scream about what you need all the time, never mind what the man needs.

I'm hearing all sorts of excuses to put your husband last (volunteering keeps you from having sex -- are you joking?). Have you ever considered putting your husband first? I know, what a horrible, horrible thing to suggest. I write this because the sexual desires of a man are very real biological urges and you ignore them at your peril. Would you prefer to address those urges in a loving way or would you prefer that your husband find an independent sexual outlet? I'm being serious; he is relieving his sexual tension with or without your participation (time in the shower, porn, a massage parlor, someone at work, etc.). As adults you can certainly figure out ways to work around obstacles (kids in high school figure out ways all the time) and have sex, however briefly (it doesn't have to take long, y'know). Besides, you may even find that an occasional orgasm brightens your mood.

My husband and I have been together eight years, we both run our own small businesses and have two kids. We go through phases where it's a little less sometimes, but I'd say most weeks we average 4-5 times a week and it's pretty balanced as to which one of us initiates it at any given time. Once in a great while we somehow even manage to have it twice in one day (woohoo!)

I know time and kids are a popular reason when it comes to turning down sex, but I'm wondering if these are the things we expect culturally and therefore knee-jerk the response without really even examining what the core problem is (the sex isn't satisfying, body image issues, unusual exhaustion for long periods, illness, disconnection of intimacy, etc).

Woman-to-woman I hear what you're saying.  However, as others have pointed out...you really need to look at your priorities.  My husband very clearly told me one day that the fact I felt the dishes were more important than his needs made him really question our relationship.  Wow!  Caught me out of left field really...I hadn't realized that is what I was doing.  The truth is that my husband is my best friend and he should be put at the top of the proverbial "list".

I had to take a good hard look at why my desire for sex was so less frequent than his.  I came up with a few reasons.  Call them excuses if you want but it's what I came up with nonetheless...

1) I am on a few medications including birth control and anti-depressants that can decrease libido.  I know this is a major contributor because when I'm off the anti-depressants I'm practically a nymphomaniac.  But I have repeatedly failed to do well (in nearly every other area) off the meds. So...I take the meds and just deal with the decreased libido.  It seems that as long as I'm conscious about it I'm able to overcome it.

2) I have always had problems with getting to sleep.  After sex I am always wide awake (of course he promptly falls asleep) - that was making my sleep problems worse because I associated sex with a sleepless night and it really turned me off.  To deal with this one we typically don't have sex at bedtime.  We have a 7 yr old and when she takes her evening shower we've got a good 30 minutes to enjoy each other.  We take full advantage of that time and then it's a win-win...sex and sleep are both possible in the same 24 hour period!

Been together for 18 years and married for the last 12 of those.  We typically have sex 4-5 times a week.  He would like it daily but is satisfied with our current frequency because he understands that sometimes I'm just not in "that place" and he respects that.

hi jen. Yep, this sounds like a case of sex driven syndrome. if you arnt giving it to your husband 10 plus times a week then he will be goin elsewhere for it and my first bet is the kids. YOUR HUSBAND IS MOLESTING YOUR KIDS.