Ok heres the thing Im 14 years old. I made a mistake and listened to the wrong people who said they were my friends. And had sex with my long time boyfriend. I know im stupid im 14 And I also listened to my fake friends. But the thing is I had sex with him. My first time and I realized after 5 minutes or longer wasn’t sure but felt like 5 minutes into it. I told him im sorry I cant this is for the wrong reason. He said he understood and stopped well just then he said I cant find the condom and we looked everywhere well not literally I got up and turned the light on and he said shit it broke I said oh no….i said wait it wasn’t long meaning if it fell off and broke it should be fine it wasn’t long but then he said most of the cum is here I said wait u came …so I don’t know what to do. I was on my period at the time. And it was last night this happened. I am still on my period now. But I cant help but feel scared. I know I need plan b but I cant afford it what else can I do? Im telling my mom tonight and im scared to do that also but it has to be done. The thing Is I promised to stay a virgin till I was married I promise the lord and my mom and I blew it because people were making fun of me for being one. I feel so stupid and u all probably think so too. But u guys are my last resort I need help….fast.
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Hey, stop beating yourself, it does no good now and you sound smart, not stupid. No one here is going to even attempt to judge you, there is enough of that going around elsewhere.
So it sounds like you may have gotten sperm in you and so you should worry, just the fact that it was during your period is not a guarantee against getting pregnant.
Your options are few, but clear.
If you use Plan B, then the sooner it is taken after intercourse, the more effective it is. After 72 hours it is not effective.
This may be the occasion needed to talk to your Mom about getting birth control if you intend to have sex again. You may say you never will, but a month or two from now... Anyway, that is between your Mom and you. Remember though, that would not protect you against sexually transmitted diseases.
Other than that, if your next, normal period is more than a week late, you can take a home pregnancy test, or have a doctor test you. I'm glad you are thinking, not just hoping it all goes away and I hope this all works out well for you.
I don't really know how you can get Plan B without someone over 17 purchasing it at a pharmacy. You probably should approach your Mom about this. I hope you can be honest in talking with her. You thought having sex scared you the most but talking to your Mom is the probably more scary.
I know you wish you could go back in time, but you can't, now is the time to talk with your Mom about all of these feelings. I don't know her, so I can tell you what she'll say, or do, but it actually is showing maturity on your part to care enough to try. I can only wish the best for you there.
You could call the local Planned Parenthood chapter for some advice also. Plan B, or the iPill, slowly tapers off in effectiveness as time passes.
Your time began counting at 2am this morning then.
Hi I talked to my mom last night. Me and my boyfriend did. She wasnt mad just dissapointed that i listened to a bunch of kids and didnt wait like i wanted to. She said if i am pregnant that she will help me with supporting it, raising it while im in school....or whenever...um...just anyway she can. Her problem about me taking plan b is because she thinks its like RU486 and its not. she doesnt believe in abortion and i understand its murder. Im not able to convince her in time that its not I dont know how to. But anyways thank you for everything you helped me talk to my mom even tho i dont know you I read over ur site. Once again thank you.
It's getting a little late now for Plan B. You both can read about it at their web site, this is the link for their FAQ page.
As I understand it, those "morning after" pills just make it almost impossible for a fertilized egg to implant itself into the wall of the uterus.
But, this is something between you and your Mom. I'm am happy to hear she will support you and a child, if it comes to that. I don't think you will be pregnant, I hope not, you have way too many things to do before it is time for that.
If you are not pregnant, the big thing is, where do you go from here? If you are going to have sex again, please always use some form of approved birth control and remember that none of those can protect you 100% from sexually transmitted diseases, and some of those, can stay with you throughout life and harm your reproductive self and general health.
Anyway, you are welcome and I wish nothing but the best for you.
Ok well my mom got me plan b and i took the first dose on time but in order to take the second 12 hours later i had to take it a few hours later i figure since i took the second one b4 72 hours were up i should be fine. My mom called my pediatrician and they recamended a gynocologist for my mom to take me to monday morning and i guess we will know then. I just ask u pray that im not and i really appriciate ur help and that u took time to help me instead of telling me im a stupid imature 14 year old like a lot of people have. So far my mom and siblings and stuff have been very understanding and helped me feel less scared but i still am i just really hope im not. I cant care for a child yet im not ready. And im willing to admit it. I promised my mom that im not having sex till i am married and im keeping it...i cant go through this again. Im still a kid myself i know im not ready for the responsiblity and i admit it. But again i thank you.
thank you so much i really appriciate everything. I really hope ur right and im not pregnant. I have a question though. After i mean right after i went pee does the make the chances any less? I took plan b last night at 9 45....and i took the second dose this morning at 9 45 thats 12 hours...and i really hope it works.....I thank u for everything. and ur right i do have a lot to look forward to and im not ready for a baby. I know i have the support i need if it does happen but i cant go through that yet im not ready. I hope u are right about me not and that it doesnt happen. Well i will let u know how things go monday at the gynocologist....btw do u know what they will do? my mom says she doesnt know just exzamine but i dont know and it worries me to think about it i like to have an idea what will happen.once again thank you.
I really want you to relax now. The chances of a pregnancy are, I think very, very small, if any. Okay? Just enjoy your weekend and don't worry about the exam.
No, urinating right after sex would not really affect the sperm which are past that point already.
The exam will be nothing more than every other teen age girl goes through. It is basically a routine exam to establish your health and a baseline for the future. It's something you were close to needing done anyway. So relax.
This is a chance though, for you to write down important questions you would like the doctor to answer or discuss with you. The doctor will appreciate that you are organized and interested.
Any question. Remember that is their lifelong profession, to look after your health and well being, you can ask them anything and they have answered it before, so take advantage of your visit.
You are going to be fine and you are welcome. We look forward to hearing that things went well.
once again thank you very much. Im just worried they will hurt me....in some way. because people have told me they would....Anyways im not so worried anymore except im worried they will hurt me.. Thanks again and i will let u know how everything went u guys have been great and i was a complete mess. My mom, my boyfriend, and i told his mom and she took it well too. Although shes like you guys are babies it wont happen u just have to be more carefull and a bunch of stuff she took it really well. Anyways my mom said she knows i scared myself into saying im not having sex but shes going to put me on birth control anyways. Also the only other problem i have is my little sister and my 11 year old cousin who stays with my family went around telling people and well words spread fast. Anyways thanks again. Im not so worried anymore like i said just if they will hurt me and i have already came up with a list of questions. Thanks again.
Im sorry but dont beat your self up im scared wirght now to in 14 my boyfriend masterbated whiped off hes hands then wait a few then touched me im a virgain i m scared so if you ever need some one to talk to im here
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thank you so much. U dont know what a relief it is to finally find someone who doesnt judge me. I have felt so bad since it happened i knew after 5 minutes of doing it that it was wrong and we stopped my boyfriend understood till he realized it broke then he paniced and i did too. I have felt horrible since. The only thing is how can i get plan b if my mom cant afford it? we did at 2am this morning does that mean i have 3 days left? im sorry i never been so afraid in my life but im trying hard. Im talking to my boyfriend on how to talk to my mom. Im just afraid what she will say. Thank you so much.