My boyfriend and I have sex regularly but recently I have found him masterbating when I fall asleep...or he thinks I am sleeping. We have only been dating for about 2 months and It is kind of weirding me out. Is this normal or should I confront him?
This is a topic that I have been looking for a right answer to for some time now. I talked to my pdoc who says its okay. I talked to my church leader who says it is not good. The cyberworld says its human nature.
I masturbate at times. It has nothing to do with sex. It is like a pill that relieves anxiety. That's just me. Masturbation feels good. I read something that said to have him masturbate in front of you to show you how it likes to have an orgasm.
Now what do I believe about it? I believe it is natural to "see how it works." BUT! When it gets to be a habit it may become an addiction to things like porn or sex outside a relationship. Then its a problem.
I had a girlfriend that would use a vibrator after we had sex. I thought that I didn't satisfy her.
I don't know what to tell you to say to your boyfriend, but talk to him when he is relaxed. Don't be judgemental or accusing. Tell him your concerns.