Normally, if your hymen is intact a pap smear isn't necessary, although it's recommended you have one by age 21, or after you've been sexually active for three years.
The presence of a hymen does not define virginity.
There are too many women whose hymen was lost to various activities, but are still a virgin. An intact hymen is simply a myth of virginity. Some women are born without them.
You don't lose that title until you've had sexual intercourse.
A pap smear may stretch or tear the hymen according to this link.
The truth is that, if you do go and get a pap smear before you have sex, you will remember that feeling for the rest of your life. You do have to make sure you say if it hurts. LETS BE TRUTHFUL, YOUR PAP SMEAR TEST WILL HURT BECAUSE YOU ARE VERY SENSITIVE AND NO ONE EVER HAS TOUCHED YOU THERE. For this reason, I advise to every girl out there to wait, wait until you are doing things right, ask right away for another type of test, such as mri, or ultrasound, et. And if is pain you are feeling on your upper area of lower abdomen, then there are many causes to this discomforting feeling, one being a water cyst, or menstrual disorders due to walking barefoot, or even stress related. This could only be determined with a simple non invasive abdominal ultrasound, so stop undergoing pain, do not run for this invasive test first, and try to do something less invasive first. My point is, if you think you have something wrong, go ask your doctor to test you in a non-invasive matter. This test is invasive no matter how nice they make it seem, or how prepare you think you are. Do not think that, just because a woman is older than you and has experience, that she might know the answer to your problems, No one is the same, That is the essence of science. Every one thinks they, Understand that before answering questions. I had the worst experience in this field, and it is because of this, that I have not been able to go back to the doctor despite all the symptoms I have that indicate a possible ovarian cancer three years after symptoms started. I can't even have great sex, all I remember is the feeling of invasion to your most protected untouched being every time I think of my first time. I am still with post traumatic stress disorder from this experience that took place 4 years ago. I would not advise any girl who has been protecting herself for so long to undergo the suffering i HAVE. THE EXPERTS CAN SAY ANYTHING, BUT THE TRUTH IS THAT WOMEN HAVE BEEN STUDIED FOR JUST UNDER 20 YEARS, AND MANY DOCTORS AND NURSES CANT FEEL FOR THEIR PATIENTS AS THEY ASSURE EVERY ONE OF THEM. MY ADVISE IS TO WAIT AND DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO MAKE YOU DO AN EXAM OF THAT SORT WHEN YOU PROBABLY HAVE SOMETHING ELSE. BESIDES PAP SMEAR TEST FOR CERVICAL CANCER-- THIS as we know, is MAINLY CAUSE BY A SEXUAL VIRUS, and since you have not had sex, or if your nuclear family has no history of cancer, then you might most likely not have any type of cancer. GET EDUCATED, stand up for yourself. AND DO NOT LET THEM MAKE YOU TAKE THE TEST IN VANE..IF THERE IS NO REASON TO TAKE THE TEST such as (sex) DO NOT UNDERGO THE PAIN. remember it is your body and you will be the one to live and remember this not them, YOU ARE A WOMAN, FIGHT AND DO IT WITH COURAGE.
To the person who answered previously, the question was over the hymen not if the girl has had sex or not, this is not the topic she wants to know... see, people know the difference between having sex and not..
... Here is a question for you to think over, people, and specially women, can they differentiate between the first time being kissed versus the first time someone put their tongue in that position??? think about it.the first time you feel something, you will remember. do not encourage someone to do something you find completely ok wile they might not. this causes useless suffering, this type of suffering, you have not experience yourself, so does this gives you the right to say anything.???.Please think and pass this information on
I had this done a few days ago. Alot of women close to me have been inflicted with cancer, unfortunately, both very young and old. I just wanted to make sure I was doing what I could to catch anything early. I had been avoiding it for many years but my doctor convinced me to go ahead and get one done. To be honest, it's all about your mentality. If you can get over thinking that you're somehow losing your viriginity, then it won't be so bad. I just took it as a medical exam for my own health and to give me peace of mind. IT WILL HURT. Women in my life warned me that it is uncomfortable to painful. It was very painful because I was not used to that feeling. But, I had it done by my family doctor who I felt comfortable with and trusted. She did it as quickly as possible and helped me through it. I guess it just depends on each person. If you believe in your mind that it is sexual or that you lost your virginity, then yes, it will be traumatizing. But, if you see it for what it is, a medical exam that you're doing for your own benefit, then no, it's not so bad. It will be over before you know it, and life will continue as normal, hopefully cancer free!
I am a virgin who, thanks to a messed up period and a family history of cancer, has endured four paps since the age of fifteen.
The most recent pap was not as painful as some of the previous ones. At the time you might think it is the worst feeling in the world but it soon passes!
My hymen was either torn in the first pap or I was born without one, either way I am still a virgin in the truest form of the word. At the end of the day having or not having a hymen should not be the most important thing for being a virgin. I fully expect when I do lose my virginity I will not bleed but I know if my husband knows much of anything about the female anatimy he will hardly notice.
If your doctor or nurse recomends a pap GET ONE then go home, have a hot shower, and eat some ice cream and you will soon forget about it! I know I did!
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