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Q: I am Feeling guilty about sex. I am a male late 20's in my first relationship. I have known the woman for 2 years and we just started dating i feel really guilty about petting and making out.

I know her family really well. Her mother got very upset when her ex promised he wouldn't have sex with her and did. I have not said that but did say we are not there yet still kissing which at the time was true. She is 20 Now we are doing heavy petting and i feel so bad about it. I want to do it but i feel like I'm betraying her family am I? We have been dating for two weeks. I also dont know if it is true love so i feel bad about that also. Any advice please? Thank you
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4/ 3/11 1:18am

First you should probably decide whether you have a good reason to feel guilty. Are you going against your own moral code? Do you believe it's wrong to have sex prior to marriage?

 

Perhaps your partner is more into you than you are into her and that makes you feel like you're getting sex from her on false pretenses.

 

As far as living up to her mother's expectations, she should butt out. It's perfectly appropriate for people your age to explore their sexuality and their feelings for one another.

 

Freud says there are four people in bed with every couple...their parents.  Get them out of there, it's not sexy.

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By yoshimac— Last Modified: 04/03/11, First Published: 03/17/11