Hello,

A little over a month ago I broke up with my girlfriend of over a year.

The main reasons were due to the fact where I go to school. 3,000 miles away from her. We had this same obstacle our first year and we made it through basically the whole thing, had a breif breakup that we resolved.

Last summer was great, everything went well.

This school year starts... I start to worry about our future, and if I can or will be there when I graduate.

I am also pursueing a sport on the professional level and know that it can take me many places.

But can LOVE conquer all?

Since breaking up with her, I was "OK" with it at first.

I feel like I lost my best friend, my side kick in anything, and my biggest supporter outside of my parents.

We didn't talk after the breakup although for the reasons I gave and the distance and unknown of my future it was mutual.

We recently started talking again just as friends and we have both expressed how great it is to talk to each other again. I can share anything with her and vice versa.

I feel I always held back a little in the relationship, trying to not fall in LOVE because my future is so unknown and who knows where I will be or if she would go in a few years.

Also the distance never was an issue with trust or anything, you would think it was. I trusted her fully as she did with me, and I am positive neither of us messed around etc.

As I stated, I have known her for about 2 years and have dated most of that time. We are young, 22 here, so is it just one of those learning and growing relationships. I know she cares for me deeply and certainly wasn't happy with the breakup.

I thought I was taking it better then I have been. Convining myself it will be ok, or focusing on my sport and school only.

Recently we had a conversation and got on the topic of sex. She has had sex with one guy a time or two since we broke up. That devestated me. Why, I am not sure, I mean we are broke up and she is certainly free and SHOULD do whatever she so pleases. For some reason though that hurt sooo bad, I've never felt this before. I certainly wasn't planning on going back home to her or anything, so I don't know why. Obviously I still have strong feelings for her and she does for me too. Yes she has been with another guy, but she has told me she couldn't see her self in a relationship with anyone for a long time besides me.

I am really down about this whole situation, and some may tell me oh well just go find girls in your area or whatever. I certainly am capable of that, but I don't even give much if any effort in it. I am only in this state for another 5 months and I don't like "FLINGS".

I am just looking for some opinions, is this just kiddie love, is it just life and I should let it pass.

We have broke up 2x before, once over a complete utter misunderstanding that was settled within a day. And another for similar reasons as earlier, me being scared, the distance, not wanting to get super attached because I was leaving.

Fact is I am going back home, and my future with her could work regardless of what I do with my sport, and I miss her.

If anyone would like to know more or ask a few more questions I didn't address here please do, I will gladly reply.

I would love any type of advice.

THANK you.