• Alex Alex
    June 12, 2009
    Ashamed of small penis
    Alex Alex
    June 12, 2009

    I've been going through some sex forums to see if anyone dealt with my problem. On another I found the following question but the poster got NO responses. I don't know who this guy is, but I swear I could have written this myself. What he says describes me and expresses everything about my fears (except I'm 6' even not 6' 2" like him):

    "I am in my 50's and have a small penis. Its about 2" soft and 4" hard. It has affected me psychologically from being quite young. At school I hated showers. Nowadays I cannot use public urinals, hate being in swimming trunks and changing rooms. I feel inadequate and inferior to other men. I have no self confidence with women. I feel people will somehow 'know' just by looking at me. I never felt comfortable at work in meetings and also suffer from bad blushing.

    I still feel as bad and when anyone tells me 'its not what you've got its what you do with it' I hate it - no help at all - what do you expect me to say "oh thats OK I'm OK then?!"

    "Thing is I'm quite normal - I love women and sex. I have always wondered if there were women out there who 'prefer' smaller guys (though I am 6ft 2" by the way!). All the personal ads and porn indicates women like 'big' guys. Everything I see on the net and in changing rooms reminds me how small I am and I hate it. Though I do my best to cover my inadequacy and outwardly appear happy and normal. There is no surgery or treatment I just wondered if anyone suffered like me and if any women could ever be really turned on by a guy like me."

    I mean what's wrong with me (and him)? At least there's one other guy my age who feels that same way I do. I'm terrified that I'm going to be laughed at and be nothing but a laughing stock. Just this morning I heard some woman interviewed on a radio show saying that she found out some guy she was dealing with had a small penis she would just laugh and tell him to leave. I would rather be the biggest jerk in the world with a big penis then sone nice guy with a small one.



  • Merely Me
    Health Guide
    June 15, 2009
    Merely Me
    Health Guide
    June 15, 2009

    Hi Alex


    First of all...in response to the spam I just saw here.  There is no way to enlarge one's penis.  Not gonna happen.


    Secondly...I think maybe what you go through is what some women go through with having smaller breasts.  In our society we seem so hung up on the size of things.  Yet sex and especially intimacy is so much more than someone's cup size or penis size.  Men seem particularly worried about their size down there and honestly this is not something on women's minds so much.  And I am not saying that just to make you feel better.


    There are many ways to satify a woman which have nothing at all to do with the length of one's penis.


     As pointed out in a previous comment...I have answered a question about this previously and I am going to cut and paste it here for you to read.


    I think men have been asking this question for centuries and for centuries women have been saying, "It doesn't matter!"



    And now onto the matter of how women feel is a quote from a medical news site:



    "A survey then conducted of over 50,000 heterosexual men and women found that 66 percent of men said their penis was average-sized, 22 percent said large and 12 percent said small and while 85 percent of women were satisfied with their partner's penile size, but only 55 percent of men were satisfied with their penis size."


    And a study reported on fox news validates what any woman will tell you and that is that girth is more important than length: 


    "About 90 percent of women actually prefer a wide penis to a long one, according to two studies included in the review."


    I hope this is reassuring.  Thank you for your question.

    • ZeketheGeek
      May 15, 2012
      May 15, 2012

      Part of your response said this: "And a study reported on fox news validates what any woman will tell you and that is that girth is more important than length."


      I see this answer more often than not, and I wonder why anyone would think this is at all helpful.  You see, we men with penises that aren't that long in general are also not that thick, so we lose out in both areas.


      I suffer from SPS (Small Penis Syndrome), and the truth is there is simply no answer that will help make it better.  I'm trying CBT on the issue, with limited results, but honestly the best thing that women and experts can do is just NOT COMMENT on the issue.  You don't get it.

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