i m married 26 yrs female..husband 28 yrs...our marrige date is 19 nov 2010 ..its jus an year old...my husband work in shifts day-noon-nite shifts...an engineer in cement palnt...we make luv hardly 2-3 times a months...i have tried to discuss with him but at times he avoids saying that i m nt busy so i m thinking all these stufffs...at others he jus say my back ache ..my head ache...its always me who wants to hav softly but all the time he is concerned with time taken to complete it...is my marriage not worth..or wht else...i have been tried to say things to himm..discuss with him..sometimes i m angry..cuz he has excuse that he jus forgot...!!!...this annoys me..makes me irritated..frustrated and depressed...
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Q: i m married 26 yrs female..husband 28 yrs
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1/15/12 10:49am
Hello Raccha
I am so sorry you are going through this. I can see where you would feel angry and frustrated by this situation.
Did you have a better sex life at the beginning of your marriage? Has something changed? Do you think it is the job and feeling tired which is causing him to not be so interested in sex at this time?
Probably pressuring him is not going to work. Is there anything that has been successful in the past to entice him to want to have sex? Do you know what excites him or turns him on?
One thing that may help your sex life more than anything is if he is able to get a good night sleep. Is he getting adequate sleep?
Let us know more of your story as you feel comfortable sharing and we can continue to brainstorm on ways to help you in your situation.
Thank you for your question.
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hey thanks for answering me...i m feelin a lik i hav got some1 who is thr for me....
no..i never had sex life or affairs before marriage...i want to tel u ...that my hymen ruptured on 30th nov...can u imagine it was after an year of marriage i lost my virinity with him....i had word with him on this ...he replied..oh i am very sensitive in all these thigs...he says jus go n get engage in some job so that i will not get time to think on all these things...i m an mba..was working as an hr manager befeore marriage..at times i jus think to hav an extra mariatl affair...its said a way to mans heart is thru his stomach...i do prepare excellent meals (my neighbour says this)..i have tried to prepare execellent meals ...sometims tried to make romantic with candle lights...and so..but he nevers appreciates...when i preapare both biryani nad white rice the same day of candle light he said ohhh..biryani is spicy and he ate white rice...on sleep matters he sleeps a hell lot..if u say he sleeps rt 8 am to 8 pm when he is in nite shifts...but days r like we have rest the other day and he is coming home at 2 pm in noon the same day...which means ..we can rest whole nite properly cuz he is having rest the other day and then has to go office 2 pm (noon) after the rest day....then also he didnt tried to make luv...i cried and asked him..we cud have made luv...he literally said...arey i jus dont feel like making luv...he is never aroused i think.....may be i m not that beautiful or sexy whom he want tomake luv with.....i hug him tightly while we go to bed....i feel that he gets an erection but he suddenly changess his side so that his organs are not brushed against me..u wont belive that we never even smooch...its only on the day when we make luv meansjus 2-3 a month............