The Long and Short of It

Mike Chessler

Answer: False. Way false. And it's not just because your unit is usually safely stowed in your pants. Women are much more likely to be turned on by more subtle things, like the fact that you make and hold eye contact or that you seem interested in what they have to say. Minty fresh breath counts, too.

Hung Up or Well Hung?
Men, much more than the women they date, tend to be concerned about their penis size. Why is so much of men's self-esteem wrapped up in their packages? Dr. Jack Jaffe, a urologist with the Potency Recovery Center at the Northridge Hospital in Northridge, California, attributes it to the "prevailing myth about a link between penis size and manhood."

The fact is penises come in all different shapes and sizes. The consensus is that the average size is about 3 1/2 inches soft, 6 1/2 inches erect (with a 5- inch circumference). Whether you're a shower or a grower (see Bonus Vocabulary Extra), odds are you're within a normal range, as 98 percent of men are.

Pleasuring With Your Penis
As for wanting a bigger dick to please your chick, the reality is women are much more concerned with sexual skill than they are with equipment. Bear in mind that women experience clitoral orgasms with much greater frequency than vaginal ones. That's right, clitoral -- that means outside and above the vulva -- and the length of your probe has nothing do with your ability to stimulate that delicate area. If you're still hung up on how to pleasure your girlfriend, maybe you're just poking with the wrong prong. As Cathy, 27, says, "I don't care how big or small his magic wand is, as long as he has a tongue that works and he isn't afraid to use it." (For further reference, check out the movie American Pie.)

Something else to think about: a vagina can stretch to accommodate a baby's head. That's pretty wide. Let's face it, nobody's unit is going to compete with junior's noggin.

Now, if you happen to be a gay man, you have probably heard some interesting terminology used among your friends. Gay men even have a term for those with a strong bias for the more generously endowed "size queens." Without the proper perspective and healthy self-esteem, this can lead to feelings of inadequacy. Here's a good rule of thumb for dealing with size queens, male or female: if your prospective partner is so fixated on size that you suspect they're toting a ruler, run, because the hole that is really in need of some filling is the one in his or her head.

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