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Tell him you need some time to think about it.
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Talk with him about your fears and concerns and then make a decision.
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Say you’ll go and then pull out at the last minute.
If you answered “3” to any of these questions, your relationship may be ready for the graveyard. If not, there may be hope yet, if both of you are willing to work on the relationship.
Lighten Up!
Maintaining a sense of humor is an important tool in problem solving. “In the midst of tension, having a sense of humor means being able to step out of the immediate situation and put it in a larger context, where the stakes aren’t so do or die. Some people do that by joking, by making a face, or being playful. These are attempts to not get so caught up in the conflict and tension of the relationship. Humor is, in its essence, getting distance from a topic -- stepping back,” says Wallace.
What if you’ve tried everything and it’s still not working, but neither person wants to bail out yet? Wallace suggests sitting down with an objective third party to get some feedback on the relationship. “This party could be a school counselor, a teacher, or a licensed therapist. If one person in the couple is unwilling to do this, then that’s a danger sign.”
Relationships do take work but it shouldn’t feel like you’re on a chain gang. The cliché rings true: there are many fish in the sea. And what you learn from the relationships that don’t work should help you get closer to knowing exactly what you’re looking for in a new partner.
