You should discuss these and other possible causes of vaginal dryness with your gynecologist. Nardone suggests asking yourself the following questions to gauge your mental, emotional, and physical readiness for sex:
- Do you feel safe and comfortable with your partner?
- Are you comfortable with your decision to have sex?
- Are you aroused and lubricated (wet) before you attempt penetration?
- Are you using proper protection against pregnancy and STDs?
If you answered "no" to any of these questions, you should consider postponing intercourse until you are more comfortable.
Vaginismus
Vaginismus, another cause for painful intercourse, is very common among young women who are not ready to have intercourse. Women suffering from this condition experience severe vaginal spasms and contractions. This tightening of the vagina makes intercourse nearly impossible.
"This condition may be the result of sexual abuse or a bad childhood memory. There may be an underlying problem which may need to be addressed and treated with the help of a gynecologist and a sex therapist," says Nardone.
Why You Need to See a Gynecologist
Other causes of painful sex can include a vaginal infection, irritation from too much sex, an allergic reaction to condoms, too much exercise, or too much bike riding. In order to rule out a serious problem or infection, Nardone recommends that every sexually active woman see a gynecologist regularly (important for all sexually active women, even if sex is not painful). "Remember always to practice safe sex and to have sex only when you are totally ready, willing and able," she says.
