I was at a party recently when the talk turned, naturally enough, to sex. Somehow the subject of vibrators came up. I discovered that my female friends (I'll call them Prudence, Faith, and Charity) were vibrator virgins: while they were no strangers to sex, they had never indulged in battery-operated pleasure.
As a journalist who smelled a good story, I asked if they would give vibrators a try if I supplied them with the necessary equipment. The catch? They would have to share their first-time experiences.
We reconvened over dinner in an Italian restaurant a few weeks later to compare their experiences. They were more than forthcoming; I felt as if I had stumbled into an episode of Sex in the City.
In the name of better orgasms for everyone, here are their stories.
The participants: Prudence, 22 years old, a graduate student at Columbia University, Faith, 23 years old, an editorial assistant at a publishing house, and Charity, 22 years old, a personal trainer.
Me: You all chose different models of vibrators. Can you describe them?
Charity: It's four inches long with a nubby end and looks like a curling iron.
Prudence: Mine is this big, rubbery, purple penis. I chose it because it looked like the real thing.
Faith: Mine is bright pink and made of soft plastic. It's been dubbed the "Pink Pony" by my friends at work. (I guess I must have told them about it one night when I had a couple of drinks.)
Me: Can you talk about your first time?
Prudence: Mine was great. I had an orgasm in less than two minutes. I was totally ecstatic. I was just naked in my living room, holding this thing and trying to decide which one of my girlfriends to call first.
Charity: I really wanted to try it with a partner, but I couldn't since I was dumped recently. So I went solo. When it was over, I was like 'I think I just had an orgasm' but I wasn't sure. It was weird. It felt good, but it wasn't the same as an orgasm from sex. It was abbreviated.
Faith: My first experience felt a little artificial, almost mechanical. And then I tried it again, and it got much better. I think I'm getting the hang of it now.