8 month old baby wakes up about every 1-3 hours every night
Our 8 month old son sleeps in his crib in our room. We have made sure room is a good sleep atmosphere, dark & quiet, however he wakes up sometimes every hour, sometimes every 2,3,4 hours, but he has never slept through an entire night. He wakes up alot crying, once in awhile, he screams, and sometimes he wakes up wide awake and full of energy. When he wakes, we dont feed him, turn lights on, or pick him up. We either put his pacifier in his mouth and tuck him in, stroke his head and face gently until he settles down again, and when all else fails, like tonight, it's 4:45am I leave the room and let him cry, and then my Husband wakes up and he gets no more sleep either and has to go to work. He has 2 naps a day, total of about 3 hours, we have a bed time routine, bath, bottle, and quietly to sleep, but it's not working. Please help us find some solution to this problem, my Husband and I are very frustrated, and to top things off, Im expecting another Baby in 3 months, so we really want to get this fixed and get some rest, before another Baby arrives.
Thank you,
Cindi
Some suggestions:
Cut out one of his naps and see if it allows him to sleep better at night - one of my children dropped his second nap at 6 months of age - so some kids just don't need it
Start to sleep him in another room so he can begin to cope himself with his wake ups. you can keep a baby monitor on low so that you are aware but is you continue to be sleep deprived and he doesn't begin to learn his own nighttime coping skills - everyone will continue to suffer.
Is he nursing or bottle feeding? I'd time his last feeding a bit later and put him down just a bit later to see if that puts him into a deeper sleep.
Check his diet and make sure you are not giving him anything that would "wire him or make him more wakeful" (caffeine in bits of chocolate -processed sugar in any solids) though I doubt he is eating many foods at this time. Also make sure he is not gassy or fussy from gas.
There are some great books out there on babies and sleep - it may be time to read a few and see their suggestions as well.
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Hi, I have a 3 year old and and 8 month old (daughters) and I have come to learn with many years of raising my younger brother and sisters; plus my mother comes from a family of 13; so my grandmother and mother has alot of good advice needless to say. The most effective way to get your baby to sleep longer and better is a regular bath; every night. They don't need to be long baths; they can be very short. Right after a bath I then feed her some pablem and then put her in her swing with her bottle. She is then out for the night and might wake up once or twice (which is very normal at this age). Full night sleeps won't happen till about 1 year of age. When he does scream or wake, turn him on his side and wrap the blankets close and pat his back or side; they like the feeling that you are close by. I know its very tiring to do this but it gets them use to being comforted to sleep completely on their own. Hope this helps!
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Through trial and error, I have learned that cutting out naps and forcing kids to stay up later does NOT aid in deeper sleep, it makes them over tired, and it's much harder to settle them once they get that second wind from being over tired. I disagree with the users who have told you to give your child less nap time. There is a really great book that helped us a lot, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, it is really great, I love Dr Weissbluth's methods. He gives you outlines for letting your baby cry it out, or if you want to soothe them and not let them cry.
I recommend your baby being put in his own room at night. Once babies are a bit older, they become more aware of sounds especially your sleeping sounds and presence in the room at night, and it wakes them up. If you don't have 2 rooms, maybe you can wheel his crib out of your room when you are ready to go to bed, and just have the living room darkened. It really makes a difference having them in their own room. Also, try white noise, a fan on low, or a c.d. with white noise effects, it helps soothe.
If a nap is dropped naturally, it will be the morning nap, because the child is getting more sleep at night, and therefore is not worn out or tired until the afternoon. If your child normally takes three naps per day, then dropping the third nap, and moving the bedtime earlier may help, but don't cut out the afternoon nap, all you will get is an over tired baby.
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Please make sure that there are no underlying medical conditions that may be causing your child to wake up frequently before letting him cry it out. My son had infant acid reflux due to a milk protein intollerance and would not sleep for long stretches because of the discomfort it caused him. After that passed with time and help of certain meds at the aprox. age of 9 months, he began to sleep better. Now when he is suffering from a cold, has an ear infection, or is teething, he tends to wake often once again. I find myself questioning my parenting skills when this occurs...but I just have to accept that my baby is a light sleeper and discomforts wake him easily. Right now his molars are poking through his sore little gums and his naps have shortened to 50 minutes. He used to sleep all night, wake in the morning around 7am, and nap for 1 1/2-2 hours in the afternoon. Now, he falls asleep earlier in the evening, only to wake at 4:30- 5am, and then take two 50 minute naps during the day. I just have to be flexible.
The fact that your child sometimes wakes every hour or so at night is alarming, especially since he is in the room with you. I can't believe it is separation anxiety because he is near you. Please go to the doctor and try to rule out other medical conditions before transferring him to another room, letting him cry it out, and expecting him to sleep all night. When my son had a bad cold which caused a double ear infection last month, he would wake often in the night. He was uncomfortable. After he finished taking antibiotics, he was still waking often. I brought him back to the doctor to make sure his ear infections were gone. The doctor reassured me that his ears looked great and that he had no other symptoms of illness. I decided to let him cry that night for 5 minutes each time he woke up before going in to resettle him. Then I would leave. This went on for 20 minutes until he fell asleep. It was hard but the next night, when he awoke, he would cry for 1 minute at a time and then go to sleep on his own. I am not sure if this will work for you since he sleeps in your room. After you go to the doctor to make sure everything is allright, then you can decide if you are ready to transfer him to his own room. Take small steps and don't expect miracles. You will need to comfort him often when he first moves to his own room and gradually make him feel safe there. Best of luck to you!
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I am an avid reader and I am always reading at least two or three books at a time. But sometimes information isn't enough. Especially with infants. Try listening to your instincts. If it's to close to home, have you thought about trying homoeopathy? I have used it on all my four, and remember, placebo doesn't effect babys!!
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My son does the exact same thing. He is 8 months old now. When he was 3 months old we learned he had a milk and soy protein allergy (called colitis). We knew b/c we saw small amounts of blood in his stool. So mom had to cut out milk and soy from her diet b/c she was breastfeeding. It took 2 months to get his stools back to normal. However, acid reflux is extremely common in allergic babies. When they lay down, the acid creeps up their throat and esophogus and starts to hurt and wakes them. Sitting upright makes it feel better. Nursing or feeding makes it feel better, and even a binkie, because it pushes the acid back down due to swallowing. Now he's on prevacid and zantac which seems to help a bit. Last night he woke every 1.5 hours wanting to nurse and would go back to sleep nursing. I know it's frustrating. I haven't slept more than 3 or 4 hours at a time since I was 7 months pregnant.
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oohh god... that sound sooooooo like my son!
he is on hyper allegic formula too (soy and milk protein allergie). he is also on acid pills for his stomach. We tilted his bed, i feed him every 4 hours at night (with even cerial in his bottle) and he still wakes up every hour. And he always has....
well even in his own room, he is not sleeping more than 2.5 hours at a strech!!!!
i tried the cio method. it did not work for me eighter.... or my son... or my husband.
but you know what.... he was already so busy in my belly....
i was reading soooo many books and internet blogs... forget it....
i still think there is something else wrong with him. i really think he has a sleep disorder and just cant sleep (busy mind?!?!)
So, i feel you.. i also tried everything possible.... hang in there.. there is always a light on the end of the tunnle (well, you will get there sooner or later).
I am hoping too....
Good Luck
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Your baby is hungry and scared. It is normal for babies to wake up this many times at night to feed and get reassured that you are there. Most of the world mothers sleep with their babies and that solves the problem. The baby breastfeeds and goes back to sleep and no one has to get up. You may choose to do that. Either way, when he cries, feed him and touch him so he knows you are there. He is scared and hungry. He needs you. He will feed and go back to sleep. He is crying for milk and touch and closeness. These are real needs that must be met.
Not responding to your baby's real need to feed and be held is very harmful to him. I think once you realize that your baby's need is real, you will respond rather than refuse to care for him. He is not supposed to sleep through the night for the first year or even two. Trust him. He needs you. Babies get very hungry at night because that's when they grow. Once you respond to his need, you will get more sleep because it takes much longer to cry than to feed and cuddle. Also, he wakes up again because he is still hungry.
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laksh
Wednesday, June 10, 2009 at 02:34 PM
Naomi Aldort Ph.D.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009 at 08:28 PM
It is not true that babies who sleep with their mothers don't learn to sleep by themselves. The opposite, they are so secure and content that they grow up free of sleep issue and sound sleepers. If it was true than the whole world would be afflicted with this problem because separate sleeping in new in history and only in the west. Most of the world co-sleep and children grow up able to sleep anywhere.
In co-sleeping the baby will breastfeed as much as she needs. If not in the same bed, she will actually not get enough and not wake up enough. Waking up protects the baby from apnea (stopping to breath) and secures sufficient feeding for growth.
Parenting is not about finding ways to make it easier for ourselves, but about meeting the baby and child's needs optimally. No stage of development stays out of habit. They breastfeed but they learn to eat. They co-sleep but they learn to sleep by themselves. They lay in our arms but they do learn to walk, they cry but they do learn to talk. Don't be afraid of the baby being a baby. They grow up on their own.
Naomi Aldort Ph.D. Author Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves.
dls
Sunday, June 21, 2009 at 12:31 AM
I agree with you - I have a one year old son and he's still breastfeeding and still co-sleeping and we love it. However, he wakes up crying out and screaming with tears. He has stopped nursing as much during the night. When I go in to comfort him, he doesn't want to nurse. Even when he wakes after my husband and I have went to bed, he still screams.
I'm at a loss b/c I thought co-sleeping would help this not to be a problem since we are right there with him and he has touch and closeness with us all night. And I'm even more at a loss b/c nursing doesn't calm him like it once did :( I feel that if he was actually hungry he would eat as he did every night from 6-10 months (once he became very aware of the outside world!)
I really wish I could find a reason for his wakings (about every 2 hours)
Naomi Aldort Ph.D.
Sunday, June 21, 2009 at 01:43 AM
It sounds like your baby has a different reason to wake up. I would love to help you, but I don't have enough information. The key is to find out what is bothering him. He might be experiencing scary dreams, or he might experience pain, teething, or he may want to go to the bathroom (I am serious). Try to figure it out. If you cannot, you can find information on my site about talking to me on the phone.
Naomi Aldort, Ph.D.
My son slept thru the night 10pm-7am from 2.5 months to 4.5 months, then started waking every 30 minutes to an hour unless I would feed him, and then would still wake every two hours. I started putting him down to sleep in his own room in his swing so that when he wakes I can go in and gently rock him without picking him up until he drifts back to sleep. He now wakes one time in the night to feed and then sleeps until 8am. This has worked well for our family to be able to get much needed rest. He seems much happier and well rested and I know my husband and I are. There is much controversy over sleeping in a swing I am well aware, but if we all sleep better, I dont see the harm. His swing does not sit upright so he is laid back in his little bowl, all buckled in so he cant plop himself out. Hope this helps. ....a well rested Momma, Daddy and Baby
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hello. I have an 8 month old as well. I've noticed that your baby only sleepd 3-4 hours during the day. this is my 8 month old scheduel.
wakes at 9am plays
9:30am breakfast
10:30am nap until 11:30am
12pm lunch
playtime, bath, bottle
2:30pm nap until 4:00pm
snack, play,
5:30 dinner
6:30p nap until 7pm
plays
between 8-10pm bedtime.
bottle at 12am (she does not wake up fully)-when I see her moving around I start a bottle)
bottle at 5am
then wakes up at 9am...
Also, try pushing your bed with one side towards the wall... put a body pillow against the wall.. the your baby and then you. push his bottom all the way up to your belly so he can feel you. co-sleeping is an amazing thing. I used to do it only during daily naps, but have recently decided she's big enough now to sleep with hubby and I in bed. Try researching more on co-sleeping.
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Im the original author of this note. My son is now 14 months old and sleeps wonderfully through the night. It started when he was about 11 months old.
My routine to get him to that point was awake @ 7-8 am, 2 hour aftn nap 12-1pm till about 2-3 pm, and then bed -time 8-9pm, he sleeps all through till 7-8am the next morning. It's Great!! and my new little girl who is now 8 weeks old, is a very good sleeper, she wakes once through-out the night for a feeding and then right back to sleep. It just took a little time and patience 
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Hi to the original poster. What did you do differently, other than what seems like a more regulated schedule? Please let me know as my 5-month old dd is waking every single hour at night. CIO would never work because she gets in such a frenzy almost the instant she is laid down in her crib (even if in a relatively deep sleep already) and forget ever putting her in the crib while she is drowsy, but awake. I cannot console her just by patting her or stroking her and when I do pick her up to calm her down, it takes sometimes 15 - 30 minutes to calm her down. We have tried everything from zantac to prevacid to gas drops to being careful about her position after breastfeeding to watching my diet to getting on a more rigid schedule (and just following her lead, too) to having her sleep in a carseat/elevated crib/co-sleeping -- and absolutely nothing is working. Any advice is appreciated.
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well he was about 9-10 months old before he started sleeping through the night. I started by only giving him one nap through out the day. Another habit we have gotten into also which I know alot of Parents would frown on is giving him a warm bottle to go to bed with. We do always check on him about 20 minutes after we put him down, and the bottle is finished and not in his mouth affecting his teeth. That will be my next hurdle is trying to eliminate the bottle at bed time. I know this probably wont help you much since your baby is only 5 months and I wish I could recommend something, but it will take time and patience and the months go by pretty fast the first year so try to enjoy them. Good Luck !
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hi i have a baby 8 months old,till 8 monts he sleeped once a day,now he want to sleep twice a day,at 6.30pm its bathtime,at 7pm i feed him and he falls asleep,he wake up at 11 pm i give him 4 once milk,he falls asleep,i ve try to not give him milk during the night,but he stay more then 2 hours awake,and i ve seen its imposible to sleep all night,now every night i feed him and he is happy ,he wake up at 7 am ,i think your baby is hungry thats way he wakes up,try to feed him and u can see he will sleep all night good luck
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Hi to the original poster and all others in a similar situation. Our son is about 8 months old and does wake up a few times during the night, but we have learned to let him cry for a little bit (usually a few minutes), not overreact, and allow him to soothe himself back to sleep. Feeding him is the WORST thing you can do, because then it only trains him to wake up in the middle of the night for feedings. We used to give him a little bottle when he woke up, but then he would wake up after 4-5 hours like clockwork, expecting formula. So, we decided to let him cry it out one night, and it was painful for him/us that night and the next night, but he learned how to self-soothe, and now he might wake up once a night crying but will go back to sleep if one of us goes in and pats him on the back and says a few words. Also, DO NOT allow your children to sleep in the same room as you are, because then they KNOW that you are only a few feet away and will continue to cry until you attend to them, instead of learning that while you are in the same house, you will not immediately jump to their aid in the middle of the night and thus they can comfort themselves back to sleep.
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My daughter is 7 month old.She also wakes up every 2 hours.I feed her every time.I know its really difficult to wake up every time.But thats only for some time,they grow up very fast.Donot put them in some other room.Let them sleep in your room but in their own crib.Never co sleep with the baby.They will just suck milk and want breast in their mouth all the time.It becomes habit for them.After that they will not sleep by their own. Since they are growing very fast they really get very hungry at night.If you let him cry he will cry more and sleeps when he is really exahusted.He gets hungry again and gets up again in a hour.All the parents have some problems or other.Parenting is the toughest job in the world.But everthing is forgotten when we see cute smiling face of baby.