I am sure we can all relate to the temptation of giving in to dread. Yes, there you have it, I am human, I will make mistakes, and I deal with all the same things others who live with chronic pain encounter. I feel it is important to know we are not alone when facing decisions, and I wanted to share my encounter with you.
When I was first considered as a contributor here at HealthCentral, I began that negative self-dialogue that can creep into our head and rob us of our common sense like a thief in the night.
- What if I experience a physical set back?
- What if I have a migraine or a night with no sleep that interferes with a commitment?
- What if I experience writer’s block?
- What if"?
Negative "what if’s" create self-doubt, and none of mine were positive.
The "NN" Phrase
According to a study reported on by Karen Richards, negative words can change the way our brain responds and can even make our pain worse. These negative words and negative "What ifs" can also affect the outcome of important decisions. That’s why I decided I needed to put the "NN phrase" I talk about in my books into action "NO NEGATIVITY" When I replace negative "What ifs" with positive ones, they read like this:
What if they understand my need to be flexible?
What if I can use this platform to write from a prospective that encourages others and allows me to fulfill my purpose?
What if I ask questions before drawing my own conclusions?
As you can see, I did not surrender to the temptation of self-doubt that lives in each of us. If we consider the "NN Phrase," we can rest assured our decisions are not fret with negativity. It may not change the choice we make, but we will know our decision is the right one leaving no doubts to why we made it. And an added benefit to saying "NO to NEGATIVITY" is the potential to change how our brain deals with pain.
As I draw this article to a conclusion, I am reminded that there is opportunity in adversity. I am reminded that I learn from the questions you ask. Teach me.
Celeste Cooper, R.N., is a freelance writer focusing on chronic pain and fibromyalgia. She is lead author of Integrative therapies for Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and Myofascial Pain and the Broken Body, Wounded Spirit: Balancing the See-Saw of Chronic Pain book series. She enjoys her family, writing and advocating, photography, and nature. Connect with Celeste through her website CelesteCooper.com, Twitter @FibroCFSWarrior, or follow her Facebook page.