Considering Effective Communication Techniques, How Would I Respond To Her? ( How This Response Would Be Helpful???? )

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Considering Effective Communication Techniques, How Would I Respond To Her? ( How This Response Would Be Helpful???? )

My grandma was diagnnosed with a multi-infarct dementia and one day I went to visit her and she's on her way out, "I've overslept," she says, "I'm terribly late for work." Considering effective communication techniques, how would I respond to her? And how might my grandma's diagnosis interfere with her safety needs?

This is real for her. Does she live alone? If she does, it's likely time for some kind of change for her own safety. For this issue I'd say, "You're not so terribly late. Let's check the clock in the kitchen and see if it's right," or something along those lines and then, on your way, distract her the best you can with some other issue. It's not always easy. They can be very obsessive. But you can try. Not arguing is important, since this is her reality. I agree that her safety is an issue if she is alone, and some in-home care, or assisted living may be a safe alternative.

HOW THIS RESPONSE WOULD BE HELPFUL????

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Hi, Fliptdot,

I totally agree with NC. You've handled it properly by acknowledging her concern adn then trying to change the subject. I had to do that multiple times with Mom (including times when she thought there was a fire -- which she saw on TV -- or when she thought she was at the store she once owned). It isn't easy, but it's the kindest thing to do. I also learned to focus on story telling as a way to engage Mom's mind when I changed the subject. I wrote about one of these challenges in a sharepost in 2007.

Take care and keep us posted!

Dorian

Answered by Dorian Martin