Asked by JMC
I am a 24 year old woman my question is this: why can i only get an orgasm when my husband uses this method:cunnilingus, how can i get an orgasm normally while we are having sex i am desperate to get this question answered it's reuinig my marriage what's the reason. I once read in a sex book that if as a virgin i mastebated alot that could be the reason and most important is it reversable can i get an orgasm normally like everyone else, please answer my question. thank you
Well there are several issues here.
One is that it is not my belief that maturbation has anything at all to do with having difficulty achieving orgasm during sexual intercourse.
Secondly I am wondering how this is ruining your marraige. Is there pressure from your husband to have an orgasm during intercourse?
And too I want to stress that you are not abnormal. I found this quote from Paula Hall who is a psychosexual therapist: "Research estimates 12 per cent of women never reach a climax - and 75 per cent don't orgasm during intercourse."
Many women need direct stimulation to the clitoris to achieve orgasm.
Here is a Discovery Health article about how to best achieve an orgasm for women through sexual intercourse.
I hope this helps some. Thank you for your question.