Dementia Patient Refuses To Go To Nursing Home. What Do We Do?

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Asked by Monica St John

Dementia Patient Refuses To Go To Nursing Home. What Do We Do?

It has been determined by my father's primary care doctor that he is in need of 24 hour care. After testing my father's memory and cognitive functions he stated that we should start the process of getting him admitted to a nursing because my mother can no longer care for him alone. The doctor stated that if my father refuses he must be declared incompetent by a judge. How long will this process take?

Answer

It can take some time. Hopefully, other methods will work, such as convinicing him that the caregiving could kill his wife and also reassuring him that he will not be "dumped and forgotten." His family, including his wife, will "be there" for him.

Court procedures are sometimes the only route, but it's expensive and takes some time. Good luck with this difficult transition.

Carol