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If you look at the limited biography on Nicole Arbour, you take note of the fact that she is a Canadian comedian and writer, among other professional descriptions. But her latest contribution to YouTube has lots of people talking - exactly what you want to accomplish if you’re an aspiring comedian and actress. Of course, when the topic involves insulting individuals struggling with obesity, that’s when it really gets people talking.
The YouTube video was immediately categorized as a, “fat-shaming" video: It’s filled with expletives, it certainly has a weighty commentary on why people get fat (her words), why they should get control of the situation, and what gets her personally upset about individuals who she says, “choose to be obese.”
I did watch the video – twice to be exact. Before I offer my insights, let me give you some of her specific perspectives, in case you don’t want to watch it:
She provocatively starts the video by saying, “Dear fat people,” so you know she is looking to get attention -and not in a good way- while she shares personal observations and feelings enveloped in comedic and satire-driven delivery.
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It later becomes well-known that she does not buy into fat-shaming as a concept. She maintains that it was created by the very individuals she and the term “fat-shaming,” is targeting. Her response? “Just stop eating.” She also acknowledges the “race card,” the “disability card,” and the “gay card,” and says in contrast, these individuals do wrongfully cope with shaming and discrimination. She claims it’s unfair because they can’t help their circumstance, and then offers that “fat people can…just stop eating.”
She then addresses the doctor-patient relationship by saying, “Are you going to tell the doctor that they’re being mean, and “fat-shaming you,” when they tell you, you have heart diease?
Although she acknowledges that 35 percent of North Americans are overweight or suffering with obesity, she does acknowledge that a small subset may have a true disease that is driving weight issues.
However, she also outwardly interprets the term fat-shaming _as: _ “Shame people who have bad habits until they [expletive] stop.” She adds, “If we offend you enough that you lose weight, I’m OK with that. You are killing yourself. I’m saving your life.”
She even uses the term “assisted-suicide” as a means to suggest that if we don’t fat shame, we are actually helping to fuel the weight problem and early death from obesity.
Nicole goes on to tell a story (is it true?) that while once waiting on a security line at the airport, she saw a family with overweight individuals handled as “disabled,” and brought to the front of the line because they told airport officials that standing and waiting was causing them to experience knee pain. Her next encounter with the same family was seeing them being helped to their gate on a golf cart (shouldn’t they walk and get some exercise?). Once on the plane, she was asked to switch seats to allow a “disabled” person to move up next to her. It was one of the family’s members, who struggled to fit in the single seat and impacted her comfort.
She concludes with saying that she is not trying to offend people – she should be viewed as a _good, caring friend _trying to help and be real. She asserts that no one, including her targeted audience’s own friends, is willing to do the heavy lifting by being honest.
Okay, here’s my perspective:
Obesity is a complicated disease. It’s caused by a variety of factors such as poverty, lack of education, cultural mores, genetics, ad campaigns, and yes, also by numerous lifestyle choices we make (for ourselves and our kids) every day.
There is obesity bias. Shaming people will not get results. However, many of us “dance” around the issue, which can feed into a culture of denial.
I have always maintained that it is unacceptable in this day and age to raise a child without attempting to understand nutrition and lifestyle practices, particularly if the parents have struggled with weight issues.
The food industry is not being held sufficiently accountable for the impact that unhealthy advertising and misleading food information has had and continues to have on obesity.
When it comes to pediatric and teen obesity, we need to find ways for parents, school officials and healthcare professionals to work together, leaving the “judgement part,” out of the equation.
These kids are destined to die at an earlier age than their parents. That should scare us all into making the effort a singular priority.
In my personal practice, I do believe in dishing out honesty enveloped in empathy. I do tell clients when they are in denial, not exercising their willpower, not working the program we’ve set up, and not applying the same kind of effort to their lifestyle, that they do to their work or their relationships.
One expert interviewed for an online article said, “No one chooses to be overweight or to suffer with obesity.” I think some of us do, with our habitual actions, because to solve the problem and keep it in remission requires an awful lot of hard, daily work.
But I do believe that, like a muscle, willpower needs to be utilized on a regular basis so that it becomes more accessible and powerful. And speaking from personal experience, I feel that specific component of weight management is not discussed often enough. I speak from personal experience.
With regards to the plane seat reference, I have sat next to individuals who have encroached on my seat, because of their size. I think we all know when the necessity to buy a second seat, to accommodate size, is appropriate. I believe personal responsibility has a place when you directly impact someone else’s comfort level, especially when they’ve paid for a product or service with an expectation of a certain level-of-comfort. Caring is a two way street.
Finally, I feel that Nicole Arbor created this video because she thought she would discourse on a hot topic that is sensitive in nature and she created a delivery that would get her noticed and get people talking.
The question is, what do you think??
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