How Do You Handle It When A Person With Alzheimer's Asks About Their Mom Who Has Been Dead For 49 Years, And Wants To See Them?

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Asked by Carole

How Do You Handle It When A Person With Alzheimer's Asks About Their Mom Who Has Been Dead For 49 Years, And Wants To See Them?

My mom has alzheimer's and she talks about her mom who has been dead for 49 years, and she wants to see her. i tried to explain that she passed away before i was born, but my mom gets more confused and upset

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She is likely feeling like a child and her mother is young to her (in her mind). So this news is upsetting. Sometimes it helps to say, "you'll see her soon" and then distract her to something else. I know this is hard, and not everyone agrees with me, but your mom can't understand logic now. It's about how she feels. My thoughts are why keep putting her through pain since she can't understand it and can't remember what she is told, either?

Keep checking back. You may get other takes on this. It's a very difficult thing to deal with.

Take care,

Carol

Answered by Carol Bradley Bursack