Husband Masturbating Beside Me In Bed?

Question

Asked by mms5678

Husband Masturbating Beside Me In Bed?

Is it normal for a man to masturbate while his wife is in bed with him asleep? This has happened two or three times, and is particularly disconcerting because we have no been having sex. Should I be worried?

Answer

It sounds like it is time for you and your husband to have a talk about what is important and what you both want from the relationship. Are you interested in having sex more often? Does he want sex more often? Are you "out of sync" with sexual desires? As difficult as sexual problems are, they are often the result of being "out of sync" emotionally. Are you and your husband doing things together? Do you connect emotionally on a regular basis?

Maybe rather than address the sexual issue, you could start by planning a weekly date or time when you can connect with one another - turn off the television, make talk about work and kids off limit - and spend time together. Take time to do things that you did together during the early days of your relationship to remind you of why you are together.

Once you start rebuilding the emotional connection and the times you talk to one another, you can address the sexual issues - the lack of sex - and see where it leads.

Here are some links that might be helpful for you:

6 Tips for Dating Your Spouse

10 Tips for Men's Sexual Health

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