I Think My Boyfriend Has Bipolar Disorder. What Can I Do?


Asked by Confused

I Think My Boyfriend Has Bipolar Disorder. What Can I Do?

I am 26 years old woman who has been living with my boyfriend for two years. Sometimes he can be the most loving, generous, considerate person in the world, and then suddenly out of nowhere he will turn into a completely different person. He will stay out all night, drink until he passes out and say the most hurtful things to me. He left about a week ago after starting an argument with me, going into a rage and telling me he couldn't even look at me. This Jekyll and Hyde behavior has been going on for the past 9 months. He refuses to go to the doctor or admit anything is wrong.

Has anyone else experienced this with, and what did you do to convince your SO to get help? I try to be understanding, but I don't know how much longer I can put up with this.


Dear Confused,

It can be very disconcerting when you love someone who appears to be acting this way. The best thing you can do is educate yourself as much as you possibly can. You can not go to the doctor for him, nor can you make him go, but perhaps you can find a time when he will be receptive to listening to you and if you have the information handy, you might be able to convince him to see a doctor. Many people may feel there is a stigma in seeing a psychiatrist for an illness like bipolar, but nothing could be further from the truth.

So here are some links to help you arm yourself with information.

There is a great overview located here. You can read what bipolar is, how it affects the person who has it and how it affects those around them. The symptoms generally associated with being bipolar, the medicines prescribed for it and the treatments available.

Should you find yourself dealing with a crisis, then you can check this section to see what resources for options you may have. I don't get the impression that your boyfriend is acting out suicidal tendancies, but it never hurts to have.

I hope this helps. Please do stay in touch and let us know how things are going with you and your boyfriend.

Vicki M