I Think My Boyfriend May Have Depression. He Asked Me For Space And Time And Says He Is Very Stressed And Going Through A Wave Of Emotions. What Can I Do?

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Asked by sg1018

I Think My Boyfriend May Have Depression. He Asked Me For Space And Time And Says He Is Very Stressed And Going Through A Wave Of Emotions. What Can I Do?

I don't think he thinks or has ever thought that he may very well be going through depression. he feels overwhelmed he completely withdraws, becomes distant and needs space. I know the love is there, we have been together for two years. And currently we are on day 2 of "space" Although I have still called to say hi, or see how he is, so i guess i haven't really given him much space. I am just scared he may be going through severe depression and he is not getting the help he may need. He is very stubborn when it comes to feelings and him admitting depression I don't think is very likely. But he is going through so many horrible things right now that i can't even begin to understand how I'd cope with that. I am devastated because he is pushing me away and not wanting to spend time or anything with me but at the same time I wonder if it is all because of depression? He told me he has nothing to offer me right now, feels like he doesn't have what I need or deserve. But still says he loves me and that this is very hard for him, although he is hard to read because he does not show emotion clearly. What can i do? Do i move on? Help :(

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I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. It does sound like your boyfriend may be depressed and it's quite common for guys to handle it by withdrawing. Your question has been asked many, many times here and the best thing I can tell you is don't wait around forever, don't put your life on hold waiting for him to get better if he isn't doing anything to help himself. If he DOES get help, that may change things. Here is a sharepost written by Merely Me, our community leader, a few months ago with all kinds of links to different topics related to this. I hope you can find something helpful here. Many of us here have lived on both sides of this issue and know it's not easy. You may want to talk to a mental health professional yourself for some support while dealing with this. Let us know if we can be of further help.