My 9-year-old Daughter Hits Herself In The Head When She Feels She Has Made A Mistake.


Asked by snagee

My 9-year-old Daughter Hits Herself In The Head When She Feels She Has Made A Mistake.

She calls herself stupid and fat. When my husband told her she would have to begin getting consequences for hitting herself, she told him it is her body, that she can hit it if she wants, that she can kill it if she wants.

The odd thing is that she is brilliant and popular in school. She loves animals, is loving toward people, is a wonderful big sister, and is very active. We are also good at getting out, traveling, seeing loved ones, experiencing new things. She seems so content, and then there's this. We're at a loss.


Thank you for your question and welcome to Health Central's Anxiety Community.

I am not a medical professional and would not be able to give you medical advice.

I would suggest starting with your pediatrician or family doctor. Whenever at a loss with your child's behavior, this is a good place to start.

Certainly, you should continue to give your child your unconditional love and let her know every day how she is valuable to the family, how everyone makes mistakes - that this is part of the learning process, and how much you love her. It sounds like you do this already.

You might also want to set up a time to meet with her teacher and make sure there is nothing going on at school, such as extra stress dealing with classes or bullies. Ask the teacher to watch who your daughter is playing with and if she is seeing any difficulties with social interactions. Find out if there is a certain subject she is struggling with.

Pay attention to what else is going on in your daughter's life and what could be causing her fear of making a mistake or what is causing her low self-esteem.

I hope this helps.


Answered by Eileen Bailey