9 Mantras for Psoriatic Arthritis
One of the biggest lessons I had to learn in life living with psoriatic arthritis was that I had to be happy myself to be my best self. How can I be an inspiration to anyone if I'm not living my life to the fullest? I was told years ago that if you want to be successful then live your life as a successful person. This is one of the best lessons I could have been taught. Over the years I have used several mantras to encourage others while keeping my mind on what was at the end of this journey for me. Here are some of them.
I need support too
I say this every day. I remember a time when no one really knew how I felt on the inside. This hit me like a ton of bricks and I broke down. I knew that I needed a shoulder to lean on, too. This is when I started a support group for people with psoriatic arthritis and realized I was not alone in this. A good support team will play a very important role in your having this illness. People like you know what you’re going though and are there for you in the good and bad days. Find that support and go through this together.
I love my life
I know that this sometimes can be easier say than done. I feel that some days I am being dragged all over the place, and when I’m having a flare just doing small things becomes a chore. When I have my good days, I enjoy every minute of it. Just remember that we must take life one day at a time with psoriatic arthritis and remember that each day is a day that passes us by. Let’s celebrate life and the small things in life.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way
I have been hearing this for as long as I can remember. I didn’t know what that meant years ago, but I do now. I know that if I put my mind to anything, that I can do it. When I was younger I could try and do it all, but now with this chronic pain, it has limited a few things in my life. I will never stop trying; I have so much more I want to achieve in this life.
Every morning when my feet hit the floor, my first words out of my mouth is “Thank you.” I believe in a higher being and believe I am given grace. I have been though more in my life than any ten people put together. Those of us with chronic illness must take it one day at a time and face our challenges head on. I have met so many people in my life that believe they are failures before they even get in the fight.
You are not alone
I want to be healthy and find it a challenge each day. I go the whole year attempting to eat right or finding the right exercise to do. When you have a chronic illness, most of us are always in pain, which already takes a toll on us. For the new year I want people to know that yes, I worked hard to take care of myself, but I also want you to know that when I do fail, I will not blame myself. I’m not a failure if I can’t shake off those few pounds. I’ll just start over.
I am different, but I am confident
Many people have told me how confident I am. I agree with that statement now, but it took me years to get to this point. I have confidence that I can do anything, but believe me, confidence also comes with fear. Confidence doesn’t tell me that I can do this, but rather I will be ok doing it. I am a person of color who had never met another person with my disease. I had to create that “Yes, you can do it.” I had to embrace confidence.
Just do it or just don't do it
I know this from the Nike ad. There are times I can’t make an event. Understand this has nothing to do with you. I must take care of myself. I have been a “yes” person my whole life. If I say no, it’s because I can’t do what you are asking me to do. No, I can’t have an occasional glass of wine with you. I’m not trying to be different. I take medications that require that I don’t drink. Look deep within yourself and see what makes you happy and stick with it. A few things have changed for me since I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis so I just do it. I have to say NO sometimes!!
I’m not scared
I wish this was the case, but as I have grown older, I have more fear. There are some days that the pain will not go away, and I start to worry if I will ever be the same. I must ask myself what is making me feel this way. Is it the fact that I am taking more medications or that the increase in my insurance is rising? Try to conquer your fear and don’t give up. Sometimes I must remember how far I’ve come.
I am grateful
This is my favorite thing to say every day. Even with all my health issues, I have so much to be grateful for. I get to travel, meet celebrities, speak at seminars, and write for organizations. I have a wonderful support system that helps me to stay positive and be myself. I have food, housing, and I’m very happy. Life is a journey and I’m always looking forward to the next chapter in my life. I have learned to love this moment today. Tomorrow is not yet promised to me.