If she’s accepted it, is this person bitter? Angry? At peace? All three (and more), depending on when you talk to her? At this point, listening is your best tool. If you let her talk, helping with simple prompts (e.g., “Tell me more about that”), you’ll eventually understand where your loved one is at in the journey — denial, anger, acceptance. And you can then identify how to connect in a positive way. Words can’t change the fact of death; but they can certainly soften the passage.