Rheumatoid arthritis (RA) is a health condition that may play several different roles in your life. Sometimes it is strong and angry. Other times it can be gentle and in control. It has a way of making surprise visits when least expected. It has a personality of its own. Like any uncomfortable relationship, it requires setting limits and crafting strategies of playing nice. Keeping RA in check means finding a balance of medications and lifestyle changes that allow us to lead the lives we desire.