You have cancer. And that means a lot may change: your normal routine, your physical capabilities, your job, and the help you’ll need from those around you. Rather than thinking of polite ways to say, “No thanks, I don’t need you to do that,” learn to say, “Yes, I’d love some help.” The people you’re close to want to do something. They can’t cure your cancer; let them bring you dinner, do your laundry, and weed the garden. They’ll feel better; so will you.