But don’t smother your spouse. Your husband or wife may have Alzheimer’s disease or another other health challenges, but try not to let caregiving define the two of you. Your marriage will stay much more intact as a balanced relationship if you let your spouse do as much as he or she can. We all need to feel like we can accomplish something, a rule that may apply to someone who is ill more than anyone else. Protect your spouse’s dignity by exhibiting compassion but not pity.