The look on the outside can be very deceiving, especially when it doesn’t involve hair-loss from chemotherapy, says Terlisa Sheppard, a patient advocate living with MBC for 19 years, with metastases to her bones, lungs, liver, spine, abdomen and brain. “There were times when I was too weak to take care of myself, but right now, I don’t feel sick on most days. Yet, she adds, “I do have some joint or bone pains that can completely stop me in an instant.”
Say this instead: “I understand you face some challenges. Tell me about them.” And then, truly listen, without offering unsolicited advice.